The main advice that no one seems to be giving you is to go find the best lawyer that you can, for the civilian part of it. They will make a huge impact on your case with some of those charges being dropped before you even get to court, and others reduced! Beg, borrow or steal the money to get a good attorney( it's going to cost you alot if they find you guilty,anyway, right? SO PAY IT UP FRONT) and I can think of a half a dozen arguments in your favor in spite of what you did. They make plea bargains with murderers and rapists, they can certainly cut you some slack as well. You were mainly a hazard to yourself after all, and that weighs heavily in your favor. Hang in there dude, try and kick ass in the civil case, and then deal with the military. (Send lawyers, guns, and money- the #### has hit the fan; Warren Zevon) You may get through this better than you think. Good luck.