I'm not on his side OR your side. I'm on the side of good relationships. Also, I'm on the side of the kids.
I know guys who have succumbed to their wive's or girlfriend's demand that they stop riding motorcycles, "for the sake of the kids." These guys live pretty docile, uninspiring lives now. Oh, they get out and do other things but every time a bike goes by, they get this look in their eyes. One of them told me that every time he sees a bike go by, he resents his wife or g/f for allowing her to do that to him.
It's sad. Every time we talk about bikes, these guys get excited and animated and we can tell stories at length. The whole time, you see this fire in their eyes. In the past, I would say, "Why don't you get another bike?" and the fire goes out, they say, "She won't let me have one," and the conversation ends with that lost look in the eyes. I don't ask that question any more. It's too depressing.
Do you want to be responsible for taking away something he loves? Something that makes him what he is? Remember, you fell in love with him because of what he is and if you take away this minor thing which he loves, you're likely to end up with someone who is not who you initially fell in love with.
I know he already has a bike and you're not trying to take that away from him. I'm suggesting that if you succeed in taking the turbo away from him, then EVERY time he sees is own bike or the turbo in the box in the corner of the garage, he's going to resent you. Do you want that?
Granted, you shouldn't necessarily wuss out on everything any more than he should. There is, however, room for compromise, too. Not trade-offs. Compromise. I would advise you never to remove that turbo from his life but I would advise you to ask him to put together a term life insurance and a disability policy that will take care of the kids should the worst happen.
Also, I'm of the opinion that all household money belongs to you both, regardless of who makes it or who makes more of it or whatever. You have to have a budget, including a budget for stuff spent on entertainment (which includes the busa).
Last but not least, if you make him resent you, the kids will notice so it's not just about him and the kids, it's also about you and the kids. I agree with what others have said that you make a huge mistake if you bring the kids into it and use them to manipulate him. Your fears need to be kept under control and you should stay rational in spite of your fears.
I've never wanted a turbo because I don't see the point and it's a lot of work and if it isn't done exactly right, it can compromise the longevity of the motor. By the same token, I know plenty of other people who love 'em. It isn't about the speed you travel, though, it's about the feel of the power in the throttle. The gain in speed is VERY slight, and you have to do a ton of other things to get any real speed gains out of it. What he will get, as someone else described, is a way to get to his 150 mph faster than he already does. FWIW, if he's blasting along at 150 every time he rides, he's got a far greater problem than whether or not he's got a turbo on his busa.
Your concern is not how fast he gets there but that he's going fast.
I hope you two figure this out.
Let us know how it goes.
--Wag--
I know guys who have succumbed to their wive's or girlfriend's demand that they stop riding motorcycles, "for the sake of the kids." These guys live pretty docile, uninspiring lives now. Oh, they get out and do other things but every time a bike goes by, they get this look in their eyes. One of them told me that every time he sees a bike go by, he resents his wife or g/f for allowing her to do that to him.
It's sad. Every time we talk about bikes, these guys get excited and animated and we can tell stories at length. The whole time, you see this fire in their eyes. In the past, I would say, "Why don't you get another bike?" and the fire goes out, they say, "She won't let me have one," and the conversation ends with that lost look in the eyes. I don't ask that question any more. It's too depressing.
Do you want to be responsible for taking away something he loves? Something that makes him what he is? Remember, you fell in love with him because of what he is and if you take away this minor thing which he loves, you're likely to end up with someone who is not who you initially fell in love with.
I know he already has a bike and you're not trying to take that away from him. I'm suggesting that if you succeed in taking the turbo away from him, then EVERY time he sees is own bike or the turbo in the box in the corner of the garage, he's going to resent you. Do you want that?
Granted, you shouldn't necessarily wuss out on everything any more than he should. There is, however, room for compromise, too. Not trade-offs. Compromise. I would advise you never to remove that turbo from his life but I would advise you to ask him to put together a term life insurance and a disability policy that will take care of the kids should the worst happen.
Also, I'm of the opinion that all household money belongs to you both, regardless of who makes it or who makes more of it or whatever. You have to have a budget, including a budget for stuff spent on entertainment (which includes the busa).
Last but not least, if you make him resent you, the kids will notice so it's not just about him and the kids, it's also about you and the kids. I agree with what others have said that you make a huge mistake if you bring the kids into it and use them to manipulate him. Your fears need to be kept under control and you should stay rational in spite of your fears.
I've never wanted a turbo because I don't see the point and it's a lot of work and if it isn't done exactly right, it can compromise the longevity of the motor. By the same token, I know plenty of other people who love 'em. It isn't about the speed you travel, though, it's about the feel of the power in the throttle. The gain in speed is VERY slight, and you have to do a ton of other things to get any real speed gains out of it. What he will get, as someone else described, is a way to get to his 150 mph faster than he already does. FWIW, if he's blasting along at 150 every time he rides, he's got a far greater problem than whether or not he's got a turbo on his busa.
Your concern is not how fast he gets there but that he's going fast.
I hope you two figure this out.
Let us know how it goes.
--Wag--
