Once again we delve into the realm of You shouldn't have opened your mouth if you didn't want the truth.
The situation:
Friends wife went from a reasonable weight (her words not mine) to overweight. And I have to agree she is now overwieght.
It all started with a discussion about airline travel and the possibility of having to buy two seats to accomodate additional a## or elbow fat.
She thought this was unfair to the person that was heavy. I told her she was out of her freaking mind to think that is unfair. You know who it is unfair to... The person who has to sit next to the sweaty overweight person who is slowly but surely flubbering over into thier personal space.
So we politely argued back and forth good naturedly until she said "Well what would you have me do? Its not like its my fault?" Here is where I think I screwed up...
I said anyone who:
Already has their halloween candy out and has to refill the bowl twice aday is their own problem. It is only the 20th for Pete's sake.
Uses more than a 1lb of butter a week when cooking is their own problem.
Doesn't get off thier ass anymore to excersise is thier own problem.
Has a personal or mental problem that doesn't get help.
You want to be fat be fat... But don't bitch at me when you have to buy two tickets to fly anywhere.
You make at least two pies a week and I can't get a freaking piece of one of them.
And stop getting angry at the food... It is not like it jumps into your mouth when your sleeping to ruin that 5000 calorie a day diet.
This is not a poke at anyone who is struggling with thier weight but more of a rehash of a conversation that I kinda regret but need to vent and feel was necassery because no one else was giving her any input.
And I should add that she is prior military and knows how to excersise and has excersised and been a normal weight for most of her life.
End of rant.
I should add that we are still friends and her husband thanked me for my honesty... I would have punched me in the mouth if it had been me though. I did explain to her that the only reason I got so angry is because I and many others have offered to excersise with her and support her.
So did I do the right thing? Her husband thinks I did but I 'm not sure that honesty is always the best policy.
The situation:
Friends wife went from a reasonable weight (her words not mine) to overweight. And I have to agree she is now overwieght.
It all started with a discussion about airline travel and the possibility of having to buy two seats to accomodate additional a## or elbow fat.
She thought this was unfair to the person that was heavy. I told her she was out of her freaking mind to think that is unfair. You know who it is unfair to... The person who has to sit next to the sweaty overweight person who is slowly but surely flubbering over into thier personal space.
So we politely argued back and forth good naturedly until she said "Well what would you have me do? Its not like its my fault?" Here is where I think I screwed up...
I said anyone who:
Already has their halloween candy out and has to refill the bowl twice aday is their own problem. It is only the 20th for Pete's sake.
Uses more than a 1lb of butter a week when cooking is their own problem.
Doesn't get off thier ass anymore to excersise is thier own problem.
Has a personal or mental problem that doesn't get help.
You want to be fat be fat... But don't bitch at me when you have to buy two tickets to fly anywhere.
You make at least two pies a week and I can't get a freaking piece of one of them.
And stop getting angry at the food... It is not like it jumps into your mouth when your sleeping to ruin that 5000 calorie a day diet.
This is not a poke at anyone who is struggling with thier weight but more of a rehash of a conversation that I kinda regret but need to vent and feel was necassery because no one else was giving her any input.
And I should add that she is prior military and knows how to excersise and has excersised and been a normal weight for most of her life.
End of rant.
I should add that we are still friends and her husband thanked me for my honesty... I would have punched me in the mouth if it had been me though. I did explain to her that the only reason I got so angry is because I and many others have offered to excersise with her and support her.
So did I do the right thing? Her husband thinks I did but I 'm not sure that honesty is always the best policy.
