i know i know...teenage years....all you can do is love them....i just returned from south carolina without my daughter for her custody normal summer visit. this makes christmas she would not come..and now summer... i over the past year have had 10 min at christmas with her and about 7 hrs over past 2 days. her mother is SPINELESS!!! said she would support me all the way but as soon as my daughter said no...she said...WELL I CANT FORCE HER AND SHES GOOD FOR ME AND THIS IS A PROBLEM BETWEEN YOU TWO!!. i asked my daughter please, never told her she had to come...she called the cops, and the sheriffs department said they would not force her to obey either of us and go...so she said..."no i will not go and you cant make me". 16 is such a difficult age..she said she is perfectly fine spending time with me if I COME TO HER. otherwise her part time job at wendys of 5-7 hrs a week is more important....oh yea...and her friends. i even told her about all the bike rides i was going to take her on and she said GREAT YOU CAN RIDE IT DOWN HERE SO WE CAN GO!!. i told her SPINELESS MOTHER that because she is dissobeying her (because her mother feels she should go, promised before hand she would support me and stand toe to toe with her and what our daughter said were her responsibilitys were nothing but excuses ...) that she should take away her friends and activitys and even dare i say "IF YOU CANT OBEY ME AND THINK YOU ARE ADULT ENOUGH TO SAY I DONT HAVE TO LISTEN MY PARENTS THEN AS AN ADULT SHE CAN LIVE ON HER OWN!! OR LET THE STATE THAT DID NOT WANT TO SUPPORT A COURT ORDERED VISITATION...THEY CAN RAISE HER!!!"...no...her only response is..."shes good for me i dont ever have any problems with her" (note...she is allowed to do just about whatever she wants) my son (who is 18 lives in the house and just graduated high school and now is preparing to pay for HIMSELF to go to college) spoke up and chastized his mother for her not standing up for me...and chastized his sister for being un christian and hypocrytical and claiming to be all christian and refuseing to honor her father or mother in thier wishes....so now he is in trouble by the mother too..ooh yea...SPINELESS...keep me in your prayers as i decide to either file for contempt, speak to my lawyer, or decide to just let god work it out and just love her.