i can only share my stance on this and here's how it went for me..
living in an apt. engaged to what was to become my wife to be..while having my 1st and only house built and about 1 year away from tying the knot..
Sunday mornin and i'm headed out for a jog when lil miss guided informs me..
"Bill..the girls at my hairshop want to take me out to a chip & dales show in lauderdale next saturday night..just wanted to let you know so you can make plans."
Me?: When i get back from my run just lemme know if ya want me to keep the apt or if you want it cause if you go?...we're done.
Her: (freaking out) screans "WHY!?"
Me: "Cause if you still have the desire to go wrap dollar bills around some dudes sausage?...then you aint ready to be my wife let alone the mother of my children."
when i got back she was in tears..telling me that her fear was that the other hairdressers will make fun of her teasing her that i'm too possesive...then she told me that the other hairdressers husbands and boyfriends didnt care about them going...and i told her..
"Did you hear what you just said?...
"THEY DONT CARE"...and guess what biotch?...I DO!..i only intend to get married ONCE!"
That following week she came home proud that she told the other hairdressers what i had told her...and that she wasnt going...and was happy that she didnt get teased about it...as a matter of fact?...the reverse happened..cause what i had said blew the other hairdressers away...cause..they didnt know...
MEN LIKE THAT EXISTED ANYMORE.
and we commanded the utmost respect (if not envy & jealousy) from them all...we've been married for 20 years last month..but i almost fudged that up just recently!
But i've since gotten things right again.
L8R, Bill.