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Anyone come from the type of home in which the working father came home after a long day at work and was greeted by an apron wearing housewife with a smile, hug and his favorite drink? I did to a degree and I was born in the bicentennial year. Not that long ago if you ask me.

These days you all know that guy that doesn't even have the luxury of going home to his family at night because of the Astronomical divorce rate. Then you know of the poor sucker that goes home to a bed still warm from all the adultery going on there until minutes prior to his arrival. Also, there is the guy that gets no respect and is berated upon entry to his castle. Was it ever his?

The state of the American home these days is repulsive and depressing to many, myself included. At the relatively young age of 36 and coming out of Gen-X, I long for the old days when my wife (which I don't have) would be happily at home waiting for me to arrive, maybe with a hot bath ready for me to soak away the stress of a career circa 2013. The dream of coming home to a house full of life that I actually own outright and driving a nice car that I also own is paramount.

Q: Can we still have these things today with all the moral decay and fragmentation of family?

A: Call me idealistic. Shoot, call me crazy but I think yes.

I am off to search for my future wife and queen so that I can be her king and we can live eternally in our very own Camelot.

In the meantime, can anybody quantify what exactly brought us to the disheartening place?
 
simple... as i tell my kids...in the 20's to the 50's it was a one income household... 60's to the 80's it was a 2 income household...now generations growing up without mom or dad steady in the home=generation xbox. now you need 3 or more income in the household to support the family unit. kids raising kids...parents not allowed to discipline...no child left behind (which really means, drug em and push them through and fake their grades just so we can get our subsidies) your peers and your video games are the only real education you have. and now...insert were we are today....i think that explains it. good luck... there are those females willing to be housewife's. (i have one) but expect unless you make a boat load...live simply in order to have this part of your "dream" a reality
 
^^^^^^ your right
at 22 my grandfather asked me why i didn't already own my home. i had to explain to him that my house costs almost $200,000.00. he was flabbergasted.
the days of a single income family are gone for the common man.

so now it goes..after i get off from my day job, i try to vacuum and clean a little, then before i go to work at night, i get my son from school, and meet my wife as she is just getting off work, at a restaurant for dinner. she takes my son home and i go off to my second job of the day.

i am at home more than my wife, so i do most the cleaning and cooking. and im ok with that. im a good cook.

i would never expect her to wait on me hand and foot. i married my best friend, not a housemaid or servant.
 
We my brother have brought this all upon ourselves. We have allowed our selves and taught our children to be self centered, selfish, entitled and rude. I am fortunate in I have a solid marriage, a great support system in the parenting/family dept. and a child that strives to be like and please her parents.

Good luck on your quest.
 
I did the one income family, had to work two jobs for 10 years while going to school to finish degree in Int Business.When wife got pregnant with second of 4 kids she stopped working (making two times more than me). It was very tough for 10 years but as my income caught up it got better. Am glad I suffered early. Just finished with the kids this year, they all turned out well.

As far as finding a wife may I suggest China Russia or the Philippines if you are having such problems finding a suitable one amongst the 150 million chicks we have here.
 
Where do her aspirations and desires exist in this scenario? Sure, you'll find women that are more than happy to be whatever you want, for anywhere from $100-$1500/hour :laugh:

OR, you'll find that rare gem of a woman that would be more than happy to be there for you in every way, as long as your bank account supports all she desires in order to be your dream gal...

Ever consider the reason for women in the work place is way beyond just an economical need? It's the ability to take care of yourself AND to do more than making sure your shirts are pressed; there's nothing wrong with women that choose to seek out their own dreams and careers, and for those that think that was at the cost of raising a family, I will argue there's a whole lot more wrong with our society extending well beyond laying blame on a woman opting to not rely on a man :whistle:

Good luck finding June Cleaver :poke:
 
My wife and I ponder the same question all the time. Would we like life in the old days or now better? Were there really less worries back then? I like my life as it is. I would change a few things but not much.
 
MrsBW was a stay at home wife for more than a decade. I think I'll leave it at its definitely possible to have a single income family even in this economy if that's the family priority.
 
My wife is a stay at home mom. Its a full time job with two young girls and while folks say we live in "leave it to beaver land", I dont come home to the June Cleaver world. Its not perfect but having her home to take care of and raise the kids was a priority for us. Some days it would be nice to have that perfect welcome home you describe but I would not appreciate it if it was the norm.

Society has changed & not for the better of families. I will point to the changes in the laws in the late 80s and early 90s that allowed stores to be open on Sundays. That IMHO was the beginning of the end for the traditional family lifestyle and represents when money, success and corporations took priority in this country. If you look at that change in laws, I suspect you can trace the roots of black Friday, which is the most visible demonstration of this fundamental shift in priorities that puts family time at the bottom of the list.
 
zukracer said:
My wife is a stay at home mom. Its a full time job with two young girls and while folks say we live in "leave it to beaver land", I dont come home to the June Cleaver world. Its not perfect but having her home to take care of and raise the kids was a priority for us. Some days it would be nice to have that perfect welcome home you describe but I would not appreciate it if it was the norm.

Society has changed & not for the better of families. I will point to the changes in the laws in the late 80s and early 90s that allowed stores to be open on Sundays. That IMHO was the beginning of the end for the traditional family lifestyle and represents when money, success and corporations took priority in this country. If you look at that change in laws, I suspect you can trace the roots of black Friday, which is the most visible demonstration of this fundamental shift in priorities that puts family time at the bottom of the list.
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I agree, greed drives much of what's wrong with the world today...it's hardly whether or not Moms opt to stay home vs. work. I support the choice to do either, just to be clear... :)

As an aside, I also support the right to Dad's being at home, raising families...I'd like to think we left the sexist world we used to live in a long time ago...
 
VaBusa said:
I agree, greed drives much of what's wrong with the world today...it's hardly whether or not Moms opt to stay home vs. work. I support the choice to do either, just to be clear... :)

As an aside, I also support the right to Dad's being at home, raising families...I'd like to think we left the sexist world we used to live in a long time ago...
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Shut up and make me a sammich.. :moon:
 
My mother was always home while I grew up, 4 boys kept her busy. I did not see the problem with that scenario, so we raised our kids that way. It's a matter of "what do you really want". I blame "progressive liberalism", but don't really know. People are strange. Culture is so powerful. Bunch of stressed out borrowers putting on the appearances, standing on the knife edge. If I didn't need motorcycles & guns & tools & toys so much, we would both stay home and trade our honey and maple syrup for food. Fix stuff, feed the ducks, and do a little more hunting and fishing... Spend more time on the garden. Oh wait, our savings are going to die of inflation, taxes are on the rise, and I'm going to have to fight off hordes of vagrants when the debt finally dries up the freebies:banghead:
 
Blanca Busa said:
Vabs is right. I think you're looking for a maid or escort?
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:rofl: Someone that doesn't think for herself is always a plus, right? Oh, and someone that only lives to serve you...hrmmm, come to think of it, I want one too! OMG, am I a lesbian??! :rofl:
 
VaBusa said:
:rofl: Someone that doesn't think for herself is always a plus, right? Oh, and someone that only lives to serve you...hrmmm, come to think of it, I want one too! OMG, am I a lesbian??! :rofl:
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No Vabs you're just looking for this guy...
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