Well i am going threw the BIG D

[smonroe86]

yea
well she can't handle the military life so
she is gone, and i have till april to come home
soo, i am sure some of you know how that goes...
All well i have no hurt feelings over it.. She
has been asking for a divorce before i deployed
to Iraq, so now she is getting it.. I can't deal
with the problems anymore. I have a life to live
and we are 2 different people with different mindsets..
all i can say is i am a lucky one that can settle out of
court and cost me next to nothin..

Steve

 

[twotonevert]

Dang it bro, at least you are not torn up about it. Come home safe so we can ride.

 

[BigBSBusa]

Still tough no matter how easy the process appears to be.

 

[Over_Easy]

Not uncommon. Probably never meant to be. I honestly believe that if two people truly love each other, soul mates if you will, then nothing splits them up. Only if one does something like cheating or somehow becomes a completely different person than when they married. All marriages take hard work and sacrifice on both parties. If this work/sacrifice is greater than the love two people have for one another it won't work.

 

[Mr Bogus]

Well sounds like you know what you want.. At least this sounds like an amicable parting...
The process may not be easy but sounds like you are relieved..

so NEXT?

I say lets have a beer and celebrate but you are a few miles away

 

[ks-waterbug]

Sorry to hear about the big D, but glad it worked out in the long run!

 

[frisbee]

thats a bummer but some people don't do the military life well . I know if I was still in i wouldn't be with my wife I have now . Hope you come home safe !

 

[Bird Hunter]

Sorry to hear it Bro... Hopefully you can put it behind you quick and move on.. Have a safe return home..

 

[GSXcite]

Sorry Steve. I know it has to be hard dealing with this while you are deployed. Stay safe and we will see you home before too long.

 

[Revlis]

yea
well she can't handle the military life so
she is gone, and i have till april to come home
soo, i am sure some of you know how that goes...
All well i have no hurt feelings over it.. She
has been asking for a divorce before i deployed
to Iraq, so now she is getting it.. I can't deal
with the problems anymore. I have a life to live
and we are 2 different people with different mindsets..
all i can say is i am a lucky one that can settle out of
court and cost me next to nothin..

Steve

Still, if you can I'd secure an Attorney and make sure your a55 is covered. I've seen too many friends get taken down when their "friendly divorce" turns sideways as soon as the women realizes that she hasn't gotten "EVEN" enough or whatever the hell...

Hell hath no fury, and women have a wonderful passive aggressive knack that the legal system caters too. She'll come ofter your military benefits, sue for health care, on and freaking on.

Not saying it's a sure thing. But my experience watching other friends, it gets evil fast when the claws come out. Pride, Honor, dignity all go right out the window as they start scratching away for each and every dime they can get hold of. I've watched it 3 separate times Bro, all with similar results the man getting fleeced. SO CYA FTW!

I really hope it works out different for you though Bro, Sorry to hear it.

 

[Big Wall]

Sorry to hear about that. Stay safe and thank you for serving for us!

 

[smonroe86]

yea but there is still the 10/20/20 rule, so she cant do anything about it.
10yr half pension--20yr--health care--20yr and everything else....

 

[Revlis]

yea but there is still the 10/20/20 rule, so she cant do anything about it.
10yr half pension--20yr--health care--20yr and everything else....

Yeah... Just CYA is all. Your Shirt know whats going on? I'm sure you know that your 1stSGT can be a real resource for this sort of thing. Anyway sorry to hear it man, sucks.

 

[proud dad]

damn that sucks

what about the kids?

 

[rockadaous]

sorry to hear that. Been there myself. It gets better. hang in there and stay busy.

 

[99'busa]

all the weight your losing shes gonna be sorry huh

 

[05 Busa LE]

Sorry to hear, but sounds like you're stayin' strong. Be safe and get home soon, and thanks for your service

 

[smonroe86]

yea well we are filing no contest and we have agreed
shes the one that wanted the divorce in the first place
it started before the deployment. But i kept tryin to work
with it. but nothin changed so..yea...
But she doesnt want anything from me. Well besides helping
her get a car cause by law she cant take my car since its in my
name and i pay for it.. and i guess she wants some of the furniture
and so yea i said ok and the kids stay with me because she cant take
care of them right now so i am keeping them. in return i told her
i dont want any child support from her. But i have contacted my friends
attorney he used for his divorce which was quick and cheap. my sister is
staying at my house to help since my wife is moving out next month and leaving the
kids there. my mom is quiting her job and she is going to move to my house also.
so i have lots of support and help from my family.

 

[dadofthree]

Sorry dude

 

[99'busa]

If she isn't capable of taking care of her kids it's probably better this way. Sorry for what you and your children are having to go through now.