Let's talk about death. Those with a queasy point of view should click "Back Arrow" right now. Are you still with me? Great. Those few here that know me in the flesh know I'm not some depressed, dooms-dayer bent on impressing the fact that we are all gonna die someday, but I want to say this: We are all going to be dead from this earth someday. Apparently, it's not a very respectable topic to bring up at family reunions or even when loved ones are in the hospital, but maybe it should be. It seems so many people are afraid of death they just don't want to think about it, let alone TALK about it with people that care the most: friends, family, ... the dog... and even though they don't talk about it, it DOES exist in the back of everyone's mind shaping the way you live your life everyday. These sound familiar:
When is my time to go?
Will it hurt?
I can't stand the thought of no longer BEING in existance forever! Total blackness without knowing me anymore.
Is there really a 'heaven'?
Am I going to hell?
Ok, so death sucks and no one really wants to admit it but death is still 100% fatal and it always will be.
Where the heck am I going with all this? Simply put: fearing death MAKES you fear life. Everyday you wake up that subliminal voice tells you a million things to do to keep death away - often times that voice is too loud and some folks live in fear of everything: cancer, colesteral, ozone, smog, jogging, lead paint, freeways, terrorists, germs, neighbors, acid rain, God, Satan, people who drive fast bikes... whatever. Obviously your trained common sense keeps you from stepping in front of moving traffic, but what else is your sense keeping you from? I used to hate roller coasters - later read as "Feared them" Why? I donnu, perhaps fear of flying off and dieing? I bet it was. So fear of death, yet again, kept me from enjoying roller coasters. Finally, I decidded to fix that. I noticed tons and tons and MORE TONS of people getting on/off roller coasters and, amazingly, they all lived! I was stunned. hmmmmm what are the odds MY 2 inch think steel tubed, locked down harness would come loose and *I* would go flying off into the park landing on my small child or something, snapping my neck and killing the both of us? Pretty dang slim. I could also slip in the shower and break my neck - and I shower EVERY DAY [sometimes twice] so maybe I need to rethink my perspective here. That was all I needed and now I have ridden on some of the world greatest roller coasters and found amazing enjoyment out of it - I would have NEVER experienced had I kept fearing death. Death IS coming to me and I have ALWAYS known that... but I didn't really know it was already affecting me.
I DON'T WANT DEATH AFFECTING ME UNTIL I DIE.
Think about that. I'm not saying everyone should skydive or take up speed boat racing, just think about how fear of death maybe affecting your life today. Now.
It manifests in other forms too: how many hands do you shake? OH! Might catch a germ! Germs wash off - lack of HUMAN CONTACT can affect you for ever. Better not buy those too expensive shoes... gotta save for retirement so I will have enough money to very slowly die quietly without much pain.... RATHER THAN LIVE TODAY BY ENJOYING THOSE SHOES YOU HAVE EARNED THE RIGHT TO ENJOY BY YOUR HARD WORK IN THE NOW. Again, death affect you WHILE YOU ARE LIVING.
Everyone has parents or grandparents that have passed away. If you don't yet, trust me, you will. Probably someoen you really love and can not imagine ever being without also. Are you mentally and emotionally prepared for that? You should be: you already KNOW it is going to happen. You do not have to live in the dread but you are allowed to make the conscious choice to live better because of it.
If you KNOW something is going to happen, you can do something about it. You know death is coming, you can't change that, but you can change what you do with your time from this day until that time of death happens. If you spend you time between now and then reacting to things as if something you do now can change the outcome of death, well then, my fiend, you are not really living, but processing time, almost LOOKING FORWARD to the end. Time to rethink that strategy. Decide how death is affecting you today, while you are living and don't give it that edge! Death gets his final reward eventually - why give it a head start? Do not let death affect how you live.
Being Busa riders, many of you have maybe come to terms with this stuff already, maybe not. Someday when you are railing a corner at 90 and you spy a patch of sand in your path and then fixate on the trees ahead, then remember to look thru the turn and lean more... you willhave stared death in teh face and allowed him to taunt you into joining him. Instead you lean and laugh while feeling the G forces pushing you out of the turn, and understand that you are still living and want to live even more. Go with that. Some have said being closer to death makes you feel more alive.... I think it just makes you wake up and recognize something you take for granted all the time.
I'd like to hear some others viewpoints on fearing death = fearing life, if you want to share.
And for a final plug, obviously I am religious and believe there is a "Heaven" of sorts, and if you don't know where you're going, or why you even exist, I recommend checking out Christianity... the TEACHINGS, not the people since people will always let you down. Although I have never really thought about this way, many people do find religion to be a good comfy cusion for death. Just an option and that is all I will say about it lest I'm yelled at for preaching.
So, you read msot of this and are comfrotable with death. Is your family? Is your friend mentally/emotionally ready for their parnets to die? How will you mother react when your father passes away? Can you help her emotionally?
Eh, just consider this a public service announcement from the Twilight Zone. There is a reason I felt compelled to post this here and I have no clue what it is. If it touches just one person silently who does not respond, then that is the reason.
Have a nice day. It could be your last
Comment and feedback encouraged
When is my time to go?
Will it hurt?
I can't stand the thought of no longer BEING in existance forever! Total blackness without knowing me anymore.
Is there really a 'heaven'?
Am I going to hell?
Ok, so death sucks and no one really wants to admit it but death is still 100% fatal and it always will be.
Where the heck am I going with all this? Simply put: fearing death MAKES you fear life. Everyday you wake up that subliminal voice tells you a million things to do to keep death away - often times that voice is too loud and some folks live in fear of everything: cancer, colesteral, ozone, smog, jogging, lead paint, freeways, terrorists, germs, neighbors, acid rain, God, Satan, people who drive fast bikes... whatever. Obviously your trained common sense keeps you from stepping in front of moving traffic, but what else is your sense keeping you from? I used to hate roller coasters - later read as "Feared them" Why? I donnu, perhaps fear of flying off and dieing? I bet it was. So fear of death, yet again, kept me from enjoying roller coasters. Finally, I decidded to fix that. I noticed tons and tons and MORE TONS of people getting on/off roller coasters and, amazingly, they all lived! I was stunned. hmmmmm what are the odds MY 2 inch think steel tubed, locked down harness would come loose and *I* would go flying off into the park landing on my small child or something, snapping my neck and killing the both of us? Pretty dang slim. I could also slip in the shower and break my neck - and I shower EVERY DAY [sometimes twice] so maybe I need to rethink my perspective here. That was all I needed and now I have ridden on some of the world greatest roller coasters and found amazing enjoyment out of it - I would have NEVER experienced had I kept fearing death. Death IS coming to me and I have ALWAYS known that... but I didn't really know it was already affecting me.
I DON'T WANT DEATH AFFECTING ME UNTIL I DIE.
Think about that. I'm not saying everyone should skydive or take up speed boat racing, just think about how fear of death maybe affecting your life today. Now.
It manifests in other forms too: how many hands do you shake? OH! Might catch a germ! Germs wash off - lack of HUMAN CONTACT can affect you for ever. Better not buy those too expensive shoes... gotta save for retirement so I will have enough money to very slowly die quietly without much pain.... RATHER THAN LIVE TODAY BY ENJOYING THOSE SHOES YOU HAVE EARNED THE RIGHT TO ENJOY BY YOUR HARD WORK IN THE NOW. Again, death affect you WHILE YOU ARE LIVING.
Everyone has parents or grandparents that have passed away. If you don't yet, trust me, you will. Probably someoen you really love and can not imagine ever being without also. Are you mentally and emotionally prepared for that? You should be: you already KNOW it is going to happen. You do not have to live in the dread but you are allowed to make the conscious choice to live better because of it.
If you KNOW something is going to happen, you can do something about it. You know death is coming, you can't change that, but you can change what you do with your time from this day until that time of death happens. If you spend you time between now and then reacting to things as if something you do now can change the outcome of death, well then, my fiend, you are not really living, but processing time, almost LOOKING FORWARD to the end. Time to rethink that strategy. Decide how death is affecting you today, while you are living and don't give it that edge! Death gets his final reward eventually - why give it a head start? Do not let death affect how you live.
Being Busa riders, many of you have maybe come to terms with this stuff already, maybe not. Someday when you are railing a corner at 90 and you spy a patch of sand in your path and then fixate on the trees ahead, then remember to look thru the turn and lean more... you willhave stared death in teh face and allowed him to taunt you into joining him. Instead you lean and laugh while feeling the G forces pushing you out of the turn, and understand that you are still living and want to live even more. Go with that. Some have said being closer to death makes you feel more alive.... I think it just makes you wake up and recognize something you take for granted all the time.
I'd like to hear some others viewpoints on fearing death = fearing life, if you want to share.
And for a final plug, obviously I am religious and believe there is a "Heaven" of sorts, and if you don't know where you're going, or why you even exist, I recommend checking out Christianity... the TEACHINGS, not the people since people will always let you down. Although I have never really thought about this way, many people do find religion to be a good comfy cusion for death. Just an option and that is all I will say about it lest I'm yelled at for preaching.
So, you read msot of this and are comfrotable with death. Is your family? Is your friend mentally/emotionally ready for their parnets to die? How will you mother react when your father passes away? Can you help her emotionally?
Eh, just consider this a public service announcement from the Twilight Zone. There is a reason I felt compelled to post this here and I have no clue what it is. If it touches just one person silently who does not respond, then that is the reason.
Have a nice day. It could be your last
Comment and feedback encouraged
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