Domestic disputes while riding?

[Busa1166]

I know we have quite a few husband an wife riding teams, so seeing as how we are all family I could use your opinion or thoughts.

We went for a rather large group ride today(24 bikes). Young lady who is like a daughter to me has been arguing with her hubby since before they picked up the bikes to ride. I think the topic of the argument is irrelevant for my question. I would never get in between a husband an wife quarrel ( unless he hits my girl then it's on) so I stayed out of it.

Situation finally really fell apart when we were 90 miles away heading home, she said she was leaving an going home an told him to stay if he wanted to but she has had enough. I could see she was emotionally distraught an was about break down, I asked her to wait for me I would accompany her home. I would never let her ride home alone from anywhere under any circumstances, much less like this. She took off like a bat out of hell, I didn't even have time to strap my lid got her chased down an got her to pull over (Thank U Busa) so she could vent on me an get her calm enough to pilot her bike home. I did escort her home an she is safe an sound at home btw

Guys my question, would let your significant other jump on their steed when they are in that state of mind. Yeah I know, you are pissed, she is driving me crazy , she is being unreasonable. What ever feelings you may have at the moment, anger ,frustration. Would you let her ride ???


imo it's almost the same as not letting a friend drive drunk.

ps if there is a husband an wife team here that doesn't argue please write a book it will be a best seller for sure

 

[chrisjp]

dont have that problem...she rides...not drives

 

[BigBadDodge]

I wouldnt have let her go either, i dont even like getting on mine when i'm in a pissed off bad day type state. Now granted my wife doesnt even ride on the back of mine but if we were to ride together all the argument in the world would be dwarfed if something were to happen to her when she took off solo.

I give ya props for taking off with her

 

[kennym4]

Way to be a friend !!

I remember being PI$$ED at my wife, and jumping on my bike.....VERY dangerous, funny how your wrist is so connected to your attitude !!

 

[busagirl4444]

imo getting on the bike when frustrated and mad not a good idea. I agree just like drinking and driving. I get mad sometimes with my husband but, I just dig deep and just ride looking at the flowers, trees, houses, garages, land clouds. obviously safely. My busa is one of my best things in life that keep me grounded and not killing people. Not literally now..

 

[smac]

You need to be fully focused when riding, Don't ride if your mind is elsewhere... Btw, way to help fellow riders

 

[Dan]

I know we have quite a few husband an wife riding teams, so seeing as how we are all family I could use your opinion or thoughts.

We went for a rather large group ride today(24 bikes). Young lady who is like a daughter to me has been arguing with her hubby since before they picked up the bikes to ride. I think the topic of the argument is irrelevant for my question. I would never get in between a husband an wife quarrel ( unless he hits my girl then it's on) so I stayed out of it.

Situation finally really fell apart when we were 90 miles away heading home, she said she was leaving an going home an told him to stay if he wanted to but she has had enough. I could see she was emotionally distraught an was about break down, I asked her to wait for me I would accompany her home. I would never let her ride home alone from anywhere under any circumstances, much less like this. She took off like a bat out of hell, I didn't even have time to strap my lid got her chased down an got her to pull over (Thank U Busa) so she could vent on me an get her calm enough to pilot her bike home. I did escort her home an she is safe an sound at home btw

Guys my question, would let your significant other jump on their steed when they are in that state of mind. Yeah I know, you are pissed, she is driving me crazy , she is being unreasonable. What ever feelings you may have at the moment, anger ,frustration. Would you let her ride ???


imo it's almost the same as not letting a friend drive drunk.

ps if there is a husband an wife team here that doesn't argue please write a book it will be a best seller for sure

just learn to say "yes dear" with a straight face.

 

[Dan]

Seriously, I think riding when not in a proper state of mind (anger, alcohol, etc) is not a good idea. Thanks for being a good friend and making sure she got home safe.

 

[SFC RICK]

Guy down the street got in argument with his girlfriend one night, left the house really mad. He was soo mad he took off like a bat out of heck. He must have been blinded by anger and never hit his brakes as he missed the turn and flew off the highway hitting and tearing down large fence posts with his head. No one even knew he was dead until daylight revealed the gruesome scene.

NEVER Ride in anger! What a shame to loose one's life over a domestic dispute.

lease:

 

[DEMMYM]

You did good.


On a normal situaion I wouldnt want my wife riding if she was pissed, But sounds like they were really having a big fight that had been going on for a while, At this point he probably really didnt give a damn what happened to her, However if something would have he would never have forgiven himself and would have had to live with it for the rest of his life.

 

[Kaptain Kanji]

Ya done good. That's the way I look at it too.!!

 

[BigD814]

I agree 100%, you've got to be in the right state of mind for riding. Nice job on looking out for a fellow rider

 

[megawatt]

.... I would never get in between a husband an wife quarrel ( unless he hits my girl then it's on) so I stayed out of it...

Of course its not good for anyone to ride without a clear head. Your intentions aside, just remember you did involve yourself in a husband and his wifes business. If I had a argument with my wife last thing I want is another man getting taking it upon himself to help her out.

If she would of spead up and tried to get away from you when you were chasing her would you still have followed her?

You were there and made the call, good thing everything turned out. However, is her old man going to have an issue with you now? I tend to let couples work out their own mess. I go riding for fun not to be a marriage counselor. If people have too much drama I find other people to ride with or ask them not to come back.

 

[Busa Jules]

What you did was probably a good idea... I'm sure you look like the knight in shining armor..

I would never let her ride home alone from anywhere under any circumstances, much less like this.

Now.. gimmee a second to crawl up on my

WHY THE H-E-Double Hockey Stix would you NOT 'LET HER' ride home alone. I don't know where guys get off thinking that us WOMEN can't ride alone. We are just as capable and just as visible as a single MAN on a motorcycle.

And just for the record.. I would get DAM**D tired of waiting for someone else to want to go ride if I didnt ride by myself!!!

Alright... that's my two cents from a female who rides with her husband from time to time.

 

[merisey]

Even if she doesn't see it, she owes you BIG. I used to take my mustang out and rip through the gears when I got angry and I lived in the country. Anger can get you into a very dangerous place. I have since grow....(kinda) and now I just go out and chop at a tree with a ax or split some wood. Luckily my wife is a rider. though if she was a driver and took off in a rage I think I would call the cops. I would hate to chase after her and if she didn't want to see me she may just crank the wrist and make it a whole lot worse.

 

[Busa1166]

What you did was probably a good idea... I'm sure you look like the knight in shining armor..




Now.. gimmee a second to crawl up on my

WHY THE H-E-Double Hockey Stix would you NOT 'LET HER' ride home alone. I don't know where guys get off thinking that us WOMEN can't ride alone. We are just as capable and just as visible as a single MAN on a motorcycle.

And just for the record.. I would get DAM**D tired of waiting for someone else to want to go ride if I didnt ride by myself!!!


Alright... that's my two cents from a female who rides with her husband from time to time.

I have been taking care and looking out for her since she was a baby in my arms guess I can't stop looking out for her She has only got a few months of experience under her belt and doesn't like to ride alone. On her first couple of days of riding she was stalling the bike quite a bit an no one wanted to be around her, except me I always stayed behind her to keep cagers at bay, so no one would run up into her. So she would ask me to ride with her every once in a while.

If I had not gone after her and something had happened to her I don't think I would be able to live with it to be honest, as for her running from me, that she would not do, she may not want to to talk to her parents or hubby but she always came to to talk to me when the crap hit the fan.

Her hubby is a great guy an we get along great, haven't talked to him yet. But we will be for sure.

 

[BIG GUY]

Just like you I would not have let her ride or leave by herself. Someone that is that distraught and you let them leave on their own, it's just like letting someone drive drunk. You did a good thing.

 

[mr8ball]

Ya done good. That's the way I look at it too.!!

+1 on this. Glad you was there for her