Advice on being married...

[HRJR]

Recognize it when you are being selfish. Don't be selfish unless you *both* agree it's okay.

Been married 23 years (started dating each other 31 years ago).

[WWJD]

put the seat down

[Rhythm]

(WWJD @ Nov. 05 2006,12:43) put the seat down

[MrGxr]

Continue to always be Friends... love doesn't matter if you can't be Friends. IMO

[BLKBLU04]

Trust and Communication. Also BT don't forget the old saying: Whats hers is hers and whats yours is hers!!!

[dreamin_of_ridin]

I would like to pass on something my mom told my cousin and me just over a week ago. As some of you may know, my dad passed away three weeks ago. The day after the funeral, my mom, cousin and I went to the cemetery and on the way home my cousin made the comment that marriage is hard work. My mom responded that she doesn't think so. When we asked her if she really felt that way, she said yes. She told us that, if both people consider the other person first as my dad and her had, then it was barely any work at all. I think that is the key to love and a good marriage. Both people always consider the other person first. If you truly love each other, it comes natural anyway.

[nitrousjunkie]

Oh yeah, put the ring (toilet) down and NEVER buy her a vacuum cleaner as a gift!

[Busa Dude]

(Projekt @ Nov. 02 2006,17:25) Drink lots of beer and always watch the game while wearing a tank top.. If she gives you any lip smack her around so she knows you da man!!!

I'm divorced by the way...

Good one !

[PACIFICBUSA]

not much to say but trust and comms....

dedication and perseverance are also up there...along with patience and undertstanding...and forgiveness.


BUT....it has to come from BOTH sides.

Wishin you all the best, my bro....

[GSXcite]

I have been reading the posts to my wife while she is quilting. She told me to be careful what I posted. So all I have to say is to continue to be your wifes best friend after your wedding.






















And ALWAYS do as she says!

[mjn]

Really pretty simple stuff....

*She IS your one and only...treat her that way. All the time.
*Communicate
*Tell her you love her...all the time. And mean it.
*Communicate
*Make her feel like a lady..take care of her. all the while making sure she knows she IS your equal. Marriage is a partnership.
*Communicate
*Honestly show interest in the things she likes...respect HER passion.
*Communicate
*She is your best friend, the most important person in your life. Don't ever forget it, and don't ever let her forget it.
*Communicate
*Do stuff for her...just because.


did I mention communicate??? Ok.

I met my wife 25 years ago when she was 16. We are both in our 40's now and I love her more than ever. We have a blast together. We don't both share the exact same likes/dislikes or have the same passions. But we both respect each others likes/passions.

Life with the right woman is fantastic man. The very best of luck to ya!!!

[dudewizr]

My wife and I will celebrate 14 years next month! Our keys to success:

1. My Mom introduced us!
2. While being counceled by the Pastor prior to marrying us, he asked how will you handle the tough times like money and such. My reply is there's only 1 way out and that's to "work it out". Divorce is never an option. Thanks Mom and Dad for that one.
3. These are the rules, Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church.
4. And Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.
5. It is clear that I make the decisions in the house, along with that comes the reponsibility of making the right decision. i don't mean what color to paint a wall but big decisions that will effect our lives and futures.
6. My realtionship with Christ keeps my wife, her interest and well being in the center of my universe.

Lot's of great comments, you be able to write your own in due time. May you live long together and prosper. God bless you both (which are now one).

P.S. I am glad we are still talking about 1man + 1woman!

[Rhythm]

(dudewizr @ Nov. 07 2006,11:36) My wife and I will celebrate 14 years next month!  Our keys to success:

1.  My Mom introduced us!
2.  While being counceled by the Pastor prior to marrying us, he asked how will you handle the tough times like money and such.  My reply is there's only 1 way out and that's to "work it out".  Divorce is never an option.  Thanks Mom and Dad for that one.
3.  These are the rules, Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church.
4.  And Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.
5.  It is clear that I make the decisions in the house, along with that comes the reponsibility of making the right decision.  i don't mean what color to paint a wall but big decisions that will effect our lives and futures.
6.  My realtionship with Christ keeps my wife, her interest and well being in the center of my universe.

Lot's of great comments, you be able to write your own in due time.  May you live long together and prosper.  God bless you both (which are now one).

P.S. I am glad we are still talking about 1man + 1woman!

Well put, Joe !

[Haelo]

Don't, under any circumstances, call her a name. Even if she calls you something nasty and mean.
Fighting is a pretty normal thing to do and it helps if you just learn to calm down and wait until both of you are off the burner before doing the civil, adult discussion thing.

Or buy those big inflatable boxing gloves for both of you.

[Revlis]

Never Stop Talking!!! Be certain to communicate constantly. Don't let the little stuff build up. Be completely honest, don't play games.

The wife and I have been just rolling along this way for 11 years, and we are pretty darned happy.

OH, and dont ever forget WHY you married her...

[Donnie373]

I am 22 and the wife will be 20 in December. We will have our 2 year anniversary on February 2nd (I think... lol). We got married in my '02 F150 at a drive up window in Vegas (Getting married there isn't as easy as you would think.) Her parents hate me and haven't spoken to me since then (it didn't start that way, we were practically betrothed when I was 12).

We had arranged a small but normal wedding for that January, however because of her parents (mine too at the time) our lives got really really stressful and we called it off. The next day... I bought my '05 Hayabusa.

Mandy (my wife, duh) hated me for doing that... but at that time i could really care less. Longer story short, we went to Vegas about 3 weeks later.

We are still married (yes, we are very very very happy) and i have my busa. 1st 6 months were a breeze... tried to kill each other for the 2nd. After that we have lived happily ever after. Except for the parents and a handful of relatives.

(OH! And we both take our weekend rides together on my busa. Our record for a trip on my/our bike is 633 miles round trip. She has learned to be an excellent pillion seat passenger!)