Scoterlord -
Everyone has their nw spin on things. I just happen to be right lol.
Ok, just kidding.. (sort of)
This is my take on women.. Women say that they want a gy who is caring, who is sensitive, who knows how to communicate, that is in touch with their feelings.
But when you become that person that almost al women "say" they want, you get trampled over, you get stepped on, they lose respect for you.
Why is this?
Please bear with this, I am giving a long winded explanation that might not make sense at first but it will
I feel it because there is an internal struggle with women. And it is not because they are phucked up, or confused it is because they are inelegant..
Here is the deal
We all have basically two separate functions in our brain, we have a primitive area that has our basic desire for survival, we cannot deny that part of our brain. Hat primitive area is what controls fight or flight syndrome.
A quick example of this in ability to control this area of the brain (for the most part) is when someone is in a situation that is possible dangerous, a situation where that might suffer physical harm, such as a confrontation with another human being.
The more intense the situation becomes, the faster your pulse races, other things that happen is your skin will become pale, the reason for the skin becoming pale is the body is preparing for combat, in doing so it is pulling all the blood in from extremities and from the surface of the skin to minimize bleeding in the event pf physical damage to the body.
He second thing that happens is endorphins are dumped from the brain not the system
He endorphin dump provides a shot term an increase in physical strength and stamina. This assists in the fight or flight abilities by either providing superhuman abilities to run from the danger, or super human abilities for combat against the danger.
Endorphins also act is a super pain killer in the event of physical damage.
All this happens on its own with out the person having to think about it. Not only do they have to think about it, but 99% of the population are unable to control it.
There are some that can control it, and those of you out there that can, know what I am talking about.
Bottom line, the mind controls certain functions and behaviors that we are often not aware of.
Now, back to women.
Women in their primitive area of the brain have a subconscious desire to search out a mate that will provide her and her offspring the best chance of survival. So subconsciously women want a mate who is strong, can provide for the family, protect the family, at some level this often will point them to hard ass's that have a serious back bone and can take care of business.
Someone who is in real good shape, has good teeth, clear eyes and is strong willed is someone is someone who meets the subconscious requirement for a fit mate
However this type of person often is unable to control their strong male tendency's and often will become an abusive person..
Well women don't want nor need an abusive person, it goes against them trying to find mate who will protect them.
So now consciously you have women that are making a conscious decision to find someone who is less aggressive and is not a threat to them or their family. Other women over time have witnessed other women being abused and this trend has caught on.
So now what we have are women walking around that while they might be attracted to a physically desirable male specimen, they tend to try to find someone who is more on the gentle side, more understanding, has less of a potential to be abusive in the relationship.
This is often great at first. The woman meets this guy thinks he is sweet and hooks p.
However after time when she begins to feel comfortable, the conscious requirements tend to go by the way side and the subconscious requirements begin to become stronger.
Since women usually do not even understand this themselves they have no idea what's going on.. all they know is they used to like you, but now you become irritating, bothersome, spineless. Even though YOU haven’t changed at all.
Women these days need both.. well they need one thing, they need to feel loved, protected and safe. That is the bottom line. You have to make them feel safe with you first. This is where you need to be sensitive and caring. Once they know and realize you are not a danger to them, then you need to convince them subconsciously you will lay your life down for them and her offspring if needed.
Someone whom always lets the girl make all the decisions, never cares what they do and never provides input is looked upon subconsciously as a child who needs to be taken care of not a mate who can take care of her.
You do not want to be over bearing and a bully. But as others have stated, you need to step up to the plate and be man, in a proper and respectful way.
Also another twist, is sometimes, humans in general get tired and burned out on life. Sometimes we don’t want to drive, we just want to be passengers. And this pertains more often to women than men.
It is a mental stress on a woman to make ALL the decisions ALL the time.
Sometimes they just want to go with the flow, be the passenger, not have to make all the decisions all the time.
So while the man thinks he is being cool and being a god BF / Husband, the woman will often feel mental worn down by having to make the decisions all the time.
When you are in a relationship you need to share the load in almost everything, and this is important for a woman's mental health to share in the decisions make nig process as often as she feels comfortable with you doing.
Also. Never a good idea to let a woman choose what to do on a first date. You guys here this all the time when you ask a new girl out, you ask them what they want to do, they say they don’t care, what do you want to do? Ten you say "I don’t care" what ever you want to do.."
Guess what? We often really don’t care, they often however want to see what kind of decision we make, they are checking us out, learning about us, and us deciding what and where we will take them is part of their process of learning about us.
And another thing, don’t get all wrapped up about how good you are in bed, guys often have no clue to what women want.
First off, guys often tend to think more is better woman often think more in the terms of quality.
If you are having sex with a woman they will often prefer 1 or 2 great orgasms, but after that they become too sensitive and it often become irritating. Yeah, someone like to experience more, sometimes, but if they have a guy who every time just goes and goes and goes, they eventually get really tired of it to where they dread having sex because it becomes a chore, a marathon, and sometimes they just might not have the energy for what they perceive MIGHT be in store for them.
And another thing, guess what guys? Guys are always going around bragging about there male parts, how big they are etc. Guess what? Most of the time it doesn’t matter.
Here is a shocker for you, and here is where all the women are going to beat me for letting out there little secret. WOMEN DO NOT LIKE OUR MALE ORGAN
They do not like the way it looks, most women thinks it is disgusting looking.
Hey might perform certain acts and you might THINK they are enjoying it, and some do, but most do it for you, not for them.
But women are not going to go around telling guys they are disgusted at the way our penis looks, if they did that they are going to crush the male ego and cause problems with there sexual relationship. I said they do not like the way it looks, but they do like the way it feels. So it would be detrimental for them to tell their mate they think their penis looks funny, or disgusting, so they MAKE you think they like it.
And size? Yeah some women just like to be hammered but often women want a specific size penis that fits them properly. A right size penis for a woman will often do more for their sexual pleasure than a penis that is too big or too small.
Yes, some women like a huge penis, but you will often find those women have masochistic tendency and just like pain in general. If you are with a woman who is like that and are not filling her up, do something else in conjunction that will satisfy her needs.
Lastly, knowledge. Learn their bodies, explore them, don’t ASK them what they like, figure it out. And every woman is different. Some like having their necks messed with (sucked, bitten etc) some hate it. Each woman is different and they don’t want to TELL you what they like (most of the time) they want you to just take the time to get to know them.
Ok, there is my input. Some of you might think I am full of crap, others might go "whoa I never knew that" Some of you women out there might think to yourselves "THAT BASTID!! HE TOLD OUT SECRETS!! LETS KILL HIM LADIES!"
Muah ha ha…
Hey, what I have said is what I have learned to be true in my life, and it works for me. And the bottom line, for me that’s al that counts.
If any of this can help any of you.. cool. Just mainly, it is all food for thought..
Scooterlord, hopefully some of this might give you some insight an help/
But at this stage in the game, find someone else, at least for now. And if you are in college, forget about s steady GF, too distracting, go out on dates when you have the time. But focus on school. You only have so much time in life for school. You have the rest of your life to devote to women
our brains didn't match either. i am to become a doctor and she is a hairdresser. she was a good co-rider though. best i had.
