I'll be 52 years old next month...I have 3 daughters...Candice 18, Marissa 17 and Rachel still at a rather innocent 12 even though recently she's been getting scolded for using language unbecoming (can ya tell i was in the military?..usmc..semper fi...ouuuurrrAAAAHHHH!)...even dropping the F-Bomb a time or two recently..(which really flips her moms switch..so bad in fact that i get so nervouse i start laughing which NEVER helps matters much)...sad to say but true..and the following changes have taken place...
at 26?...i hit bottom..former us marine gone wannabee rock star and dedicated drug addict...played 27 bars down in altlantic highlands, long branch and asbury park NJ during the summer of '84...and by summer of '86?..i called my parents at the wee hours of the morning while trying to learn the song "Seven Spanish Angels" with the intent of just saying goodbye cause i couldn't beat my addictions..2 months later?...i commenced from 2 months of in-house drug rehab and proceeded to go clean and sober for almost 17 years...
in that time?..i educated myself and became a precision sheet metal fabricator/machinist/welder in te aerospace industries...built a home...got married...and had 3 daughters...
Recently?...life has become far more challenging...the wife and i have been steadily drifting apart for the past 10 years of what will be our 20 years of marriage (the 23rd of this month)...my oldest daughter is pregnant and has moved in with her boyfriend (and his mother & sister) down the street...the good news is the last two are learning from her mistakes and seem to fear treading in their older sisters footsteps..and i?..i guess i'm softening up..
I can recall wanting to go archery hunting for grizzly and/or moose back in my 30's...now?..i couldn't bring myself to kill such majestic creatures..i'd rather take a picture..but then again?...maybe not.
I feel kinda useless these days...the trials and tribulations of raising 3 daughters has taken it's toll...and during te past 6 years my addictions have come back to haunt me...not in denial at all as now i'm an educated addict which is even worse..so?..i continue to manage my unmanagability on a daily basis..to kill the pain of having a family thats spun out of control with a wife who has been FAR less than supportive as a parent/mother or a wife...so i deal with what i never have dealt with b4 in the only way left that i know how.
disfunctional family would be an understatement...
i find myself torn between love and hate...
at times?...i hate myself for what i've become.
but this is the burden of a man...one i must continue to carry...it is my duty...it is my honor...it's..dads job as a dad..to carry on...no matter what difficulties may be encounterd on the road of life..for the entire family...so?..
I salute you fellow fathers...the family torch carriers...those who have hung tough where i may have fallen short...god bless you all on this fathers day.
L8R, Bill.
at 26?...i hit bottom..former us marine gone wannabee rock star and dedicated drug addict...played 27 bars down in altlantic highlands, long branch and asbury park NJ during the summer of '84...and by summer of '86?..i called my parents at the wee hours of the morning while trying to learn the song "Seven Spanish Angels" with the intent of just saying goodbye cause i couldn't beat my addictions..2 months later?...i commenced from 2 months of in-house drug rehab and proceeded to go clean and sober for almost 17 years...
in that time?..i educated myself and became a precision sheet metal fabricator/machinist/welder in te aerospace industries...built a home...got married...and had 3 daughters...
Recently?...life has become far more challenging...the wife and i have been steadily drifting apart for the past 10 years of what will be our 20 years of marriage (the 23rd of this month)...my oldest daughter is pregnant and has moved in with her boyfriend (and his mother & sister) down the street...the good news is the last two are learning from her mistakes and seem to fear treading in their older sisters footsteps..and i?..i guess i'm softening up..
I can recall wanting to go archery hunting for grizzly and/or moose back in my 30's...now?..i couldn't bring myself to kill such majestic creatures..i'd rather take a picture..but then again?...maybe not.
I feel kinda useless these days...the trials and tribulations of raising 3 daughters has taken it's toll...and during te past 6 years my addictions have come back to haunt me...not in denial at all as now i'm an educated addict which is even worse..so?..i continue to manage my unmanagability on a daily basis..to kill the pain of having a family thats spun out of control with a wife who has been FAR less than supportive as a parent/mother or a wife...so i deal with what i never have dealt with b4 in the only way left that i know how.
disfunctional family would be an understatement...
i find myself torn between love and hate...
at times?...i hate myself for what i've become.
but this is the burden of a man...one i must continue to carry...it is my duty...it is my honor...it's..dads job as a dad..to carry on...no matter what difficulties may be encounterd on the road of life..for the entire family...so?..
I salute you fellow fathers...the family torch carriers...those who have hung tough where i may have fallen short...god bless you all on this fathers day.
L8R, Bill.