mike1180
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Someone just had a thread that said it was getting boring here.
OK here we go.
I can't wait to see the ladies wade in here.
WOW. I always felt this but leave it to science to tag it!
Excerpts from the article at:
The couples who live the longest | Macleans.ca - Culture - Lifestyle
The couples who lived the longest were the ones in which the husband expressed his negative emotions while the wife suppressed hers. (As opposed to spouses who both expressed their anger, or both suppressed it.) "You figure that out," says Ernest Harburg, the lead researcher and a psychology professor emeritus at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, acknowledging the bewildering finding.
What's so fascinating about the result is that it goes against the hallmark of marital advice: everyone should communicate constantly.
If you don't accept that females do most of the complaining, consider a 2002 study in the Journal of Pragmatics, which found that two-thirds of the nagging that occurs within a family is carried out by women.
That can play out in the demand-withdraw pattern.
You know the model: wife expresses concern, husband ignores wife, wife feels dismissed and reiterates concern, husband feels threatened and further retreats, and on it goes until there's an explosive encounter. This pattern predicts a decline in marital satisfaction, says Robles, and women in these situations show higher levels of stress hormones than men. "So when a husband doesn't participate in arguments, it is damaging for a woman's health," he explains.
OK here we go.
I can't wait to see the ladies wade in here.
WOW. I always felt this but leave it to science to tag it!
Excerpts from the article at:
The couples who live the longest | Macleans.ca - Culture - Lifestyle
The couples who lived the longest were the ones in which the husband expressed his negative emotions while the wife suppressed hers. (As opposed to spouses who both expressed their anger, or both suppressed it.) "You figure that out," says Ernest Harburg, the lead researcher and a psychology professor emeritus at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, acknowledging the bewildering finding.
What's so fascinating about the result is that it goes against the hallmark of marital advice: everyone should communicate constantly.
If you don't accept that females do most of the complaining, consider a 2002 study in the Journal of Pragmatics, which found that two-thirds of the nagging that occurs within a family is carried out by women.
That can play out in the demand-withdraw pattern.
You know the model: wife expresses concern, husband ignores wife, wife feels dismissed and reiterates concern, husband feels threatened and further retreats, and on it goes until there's an explosive encounter. This pattern predicts a decline in marital satisfaction, says Robles, and women in these situations show higher levels of stress hormones than men. "So when a husband doesn't participate in arguments, it is damaging for a woman's health," he explains.
Will drive you crazy.
Let the good times roll.
lease: "Lord please make her mute" 
and it just doesn't do anyone any good if both parties are going at it all the time. Some one has to remain positive to defuse the situation. I lived through 18 years of parents and grandparents going at it ALL the time. Not good for anyone!!!
quiet woman whilst I take a few of your years...
