Honest Answers Please!!

[Postal]

So I have a question, how many of you remember your childhood??
Pics of you and your father, or mother?
How many of you don’t remember either or just one?
Do you remember your mother more than your father, or your
Father more than your mother??
Just curious,, and more question, as this post goes on,,
Please just answer the direct question, there will be more questions to follow!
Also are your parents still together, or when did they separate???

Wow, let me go lay on the couch for this one bro. This could be tough for me.

* I do remember my childhood, but there are some years that I have blocked out for various reasons, mostly from age 8 to 14.
* We have tons of pictures of my family, movies too.
* I remember them both well. My parents were great! We were poor but we always seemed to have what we needed.
* The painful years I mentioned were because of a couple of my sisters. The twins were hellions. They were seven years older than me and caused a lot of pain in my family during their teen years, and somewhat threrafter. BTW, I am the youngest of six kids (the only boy), five older sisters. My other three sisters were cool.
* My parents died when I was fairly young, Dad died when I was 15, and mom was killed in a car accident when I was 20.

Do you charge by the hour?

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[semi]

i remember my youth fairly well although my version is somewhat different from my parents i guess i remember both of them about the same and there are tons of pics as my grandmother was just as much of a shutterbug as i am...they have been married for 47 years and are doing better now than ever...this is pic of my dad, sister, me, great-aunt, grandmother, and mom

 

[StromBusa]

Many fond memories of childhood, parents still together, my dad is ww11 vet, my mother traditional stay home & raise kids. The times we had, I am oldest of 4 boys... Hard to forget some of those adventures

 

[Sum Beach]

Interesting thread....
A couple of years ago when I was happily married. We had decided to go the adoption route to have kids.
Our homestudy was of our home and a very invasive life questionare and interview with a psyhcologist to determine if we were in the right mindset to adopt kids.
Well we were, but the questions that the study asked. I really had me thinking back on stuff that I had forgotten about.
I was forced to remember every significant aspect of my life. All the good, the bad, and the traumatic.
The one conclusion that I came up with as far as my memories to my childhood:

The memories of the 1000 times that someone tells you they love you fade quickly to the one time they tell you they dont. Thats the memory that will stick with you the most.

That study had all my entire life from birth + 38 years, in only 4 pages.
Its amazing how much we go through in life.


P.S. I will not answer the questions to the original poster and make them public.
Those memories and information is mine and mine alone.

 

[GoldenChild]

I remember both equally, both worked a lot and I cared for my brother. My mom was around more than dad, he said to take care of a family he needed to work. I have never been a picture person, camera come out I was like a mouse hiding . I'm still that way...I see more pics of me and my mom together. My parents been together since before my birth 39 years ago, they got married on valentines day in 2001 after coming to my wedding in 2000.

 

[captain]

Raised by both parents, we lived the "American Dream" mom cooked and made our clothes when I was young, dad played ball and worked on cars with us. 3 of us kids, no money to speak of, dad was the disciplinarian but dont mess with mom!... I remember all the way back to when I was 4 and 5, I still see my parents every day.....

 

[fallenarch]

So I have a question, how many of you remember your childhood??
Very well, all the good and some of the not so good.
Pics of you and your father, or mother?
Have lots of pics at home, one of my dad below.
Do you remember your mother more than your father, or your Father more than your mother??
Remember both equally, they were very special; miss them.
Just curious,, and more question, as this post goes on,,
Please just answer the direct question, there will be more questions to follow!
Also are your parents still together, or when did they separate???

Parents were together, had a very special relationship, hard role models to follow. Mom passed away first, dad later.

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Is that a hobby or his job? is it a wod carving? Nice.

 

[mr8ball]

I remember both of mine. My dad left early in my life and I saw him 3 times in 42 years. He has now passed but for me it was no big loss. My mom is still living and I see her a few times a year. We were in and out of foster care so I never got real close to either. I have often wondered what it would have been like. The bitterness I have for both has past slowly out of my life for both of them. I forgave but will never forget the things they put my brother and sisters through. We have never had a close family. My brother and I are closer then any. I only recall one pic of us together and don't even know where I would find it now. O well. Life is great now

 

[Powers739]

Very interesting topic to inquire about. John, If you need someone to talk to you, you know how to get a hold of me.

 

[darciedog1]

I was raised by my grandparents on my moms side since I was 8 years old. My parents were not very good role models so I am lucky my grand parents wanted me. My grandparents were not rich by any means, but if they had an extra $20.00 dollars to spend on the weekend we traveled any where and every where. They wanted my brother and I to see this country and we did. Thats probally why to this day I can't sit at home on my day off. I have to be moving.

They both passed away a few years ago. I sure do miss them.

 

[GIXERHP]

Im sorry because i started this but did not give my details,

So here you go a week later,
My parent's where divorced when i was 3, my father was is in the Air Force , and was not home.
I was raised by my mother mostly as well as my grand parents, that passed around the same time as my dad,, witch was around the 80"s roughly!
I dont really know why i started this post but for some input, i guess?
I think back on what my life has been, and some times it really gets me down, just things in general,, Kids, expectations, some times life really throws you a curve ball,
With no direction, at all!
What i thought i was doing right for years clearly was not where i was to be, now almost 2 years after a major change, i finally have direction, even though i have no job, and not sure where i will end up, as location.
It sounds really messed up but i really have to say, is that i am really truly happy this holiday season, witch has not been in my thought for years!
My life has really been a mess the last few years, but i have finally realized that i can only be responsible really for my self! My kids, have chosen there own path, what ever they choose,, i did my best to guide them, but what they have chosen is not my choice!

I want to thank every one that replied to this thread, because , no matter what you may have said, it has been a a great help!
As just a reminder that im not alone, and not everyone's life is wonderful, and most people really do have real problems!

 

[GIXERHP]

Very interesting topic to inquire about. John, If you need someone to talk to you, you know how to get a hold of me.

Thanks for the offer Ted!

 

[stretchabusa]

My Dad cleared off when I was three months old, my Mum's been married 5 times and I was brought up by my Grandparent's.

Best regards Stretch:bigsmile:

 

[newman]

I only put about my mum and dad.

I remember my first day at school, a lot of the other kids were crying and I remember thinking why.
We had a lot of toys and a sand pit in the class room.

I remember when my bulldog died, I was standing by the stairs crying, I was about 5, my dogs name was Bridey.

Remember my aunt looking after me while my mum went to work, I didn't like that and used to wait at the window until mum came home.

Walking to school in thick fog, not being able to see more than two foot in front of you, I thought it was exciting.

Remember when my brother was born, I was 6, I asked if I could kiss him.

My nan and grandad used to live upstairs and I used to sit under their dining table and my grandad used to feed my bits of steak.
My nan used to call me the little boy who lived down stairs.

My nan and grandad used to take me out and if we drove past the river Thames my granddad said he was going to buy me one of the boats one day.

All this was when I was 5 or 6 year old.

 

[GsxrBots]

I remember LOTS of my youth. Both parents still there, still married.. We grew up without much money and I think that helps people for some reason. Sounds weird, but everytime there was money to be spent on family stuff it made it seem like it was REALLY worth something... They live about 8 hours away right now, and are moving in Spring to be about 4 hours away for retirement. I miss them daily. We don't have a tight family, but there is plenty of love.
Mom has most of our pics, but here are some of the fun times..

Here's my dad and my sister when I was about 5



Here's me on the my Z50 with some family friends:

 

[TreyYoung]

Great thread, makes your eyes water in many ways

 

[busabobh]

Both Mom and Dad gone, I love them very much. My Inlaws gone to , also loved. Worst part of getting older is looseing those we love.

 

[Max Speed]

My dad was killed in a semi accident when I was a year old. My mom got hooked up with a nut case when I was seven years old after all that time with out a dad. He liked to use me for a punching bag until I turned 18. The first day I brought Sue my new girlfriend home to meet my mother he put a shot gun to the back of my head in front of her and joked about what a mess he could make of me. Not long after that one day when he was throwing my mother and I out of the house and he threw me down the stairs I snapped. I came up the stairs and punched the hell out of him, I felt like I was a 3rd person watching it happen. There were Lots of years of anger in me.
I found out then my mother had not married the nut case but lived with him for all the years using his last name. She had given him all the money she had over the years and when the cash ran out, she was out the door in his eyes.
I helped my mother get a trailer to move into. My good life started at 19 years old when I married my wife Sue, she was 18... (there were no kids on the way) Life was tough being so young and married. Now we have been married 36 years now. Im happy... By the way the nut case who threw my mother and I out about 15 years ago decided to suck a gun barrel. Sad to say I smiled at the news and never shed a tear or gave it much of a second thought.
I have only one picture of my childhood and he is in it, I was helping him clean up cut down trees at about the age of 10. I keep the picture so my kids and grand kids can see as a child, I don't share the pain of my youth with them.

 

[Max Speed]

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picture of I and Sue, from about 6 years ago

 

[MoNoXiDe]

So I have a question, how many of you remember your childhood??
I remember my childhood.

Pics of you and your father, or mother?
No

How many of you don’t remember either or just one?
I met my dad when I was in the 4th grade. He died when I was in the 8th grade, he was 32. Pneumonia. My mom, I guess you can call her that raised my sister and I. She died 2 Years ago of pneumonia too. Weird both parents dieing of the same thing.

Do you remember your mother more than your father, or your
Father more than your mother??
I remember both, I can just say, I wish I knew my father better. Never got to know him. Would be nice to know him on an adult level.

Just curious,, and more question, as this post goes on,,
Please just answer the direct question, there will be more questions to follow!

Also are your parents still together, or when did they separate???[/QUOTE]
Never knew them to be together. My childhood was with many different stepdads. :sigh:

This is why I promised my daughter that I will be there for her. She will not have the same childhood as mine.