(landmissle @ May 14 2007,09:19) Thanks for the encouragement. The custody evaluator did give me some positive feedback. He said my house was one of the cleaner houses he has seen and that my daughter seemed very comfortable with me and in my house. The bad news is he thought my daughter's mom was a nice person and that her place was in order. I keep my place in order as a matter of course with few exceptions. She is basically a slob and very rarely cleans. She also has not allowed much time with my daughter. I've gone as long as five months with no over night visits with my daughter. The guy assured me this would change and that it was complete BS. So things will get better. Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers!
Time will tell. I'm pursuing primary custody.
Try an establish early on a SET/GROUP of days each week that your with your child... I.E. Monday/Tuesday, or Wednesday/Thursday; this will make the transition to shared custody much easier! Remember, try and get this early on Even if you aren't given overnight visitations from the start. By doing this and getting your daughter everyother weekend you will eventually be able to bridge your visitation into Shared Custody!
Example of how 50/50 works; Makes life easier on the kids as they get older cause they always know what day they are where... Plus, it makes little league, brownies, and the likes easy to manage.
Week One
Her days: Monday/Tuesday,
Your days: Wednesday/Thursday, Her Weekend starting Friday and ending Monday AM.
Week Two
Her days: Monday/Tuesday, (she still has your child from previous week)
Your days: Wednesday/Thursday, Your weekend Starting Friday and ending Monday AM.
Week Three
Her days: Monday/Tuesday,
Your days: Wednesday/Thursday, Her Weekend starting Friday and ending Monday AM.
Week four
Her days: Monday/Tuesday, (she still has your child from previous week)
Your days: Wednesday/Thursday, Your weekend Starting Friday and ending Monday AM.