Okay, need some advice from women
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As a woman, I didn't like guys asking me dates when I was waitressing. Flirting is part of the job
so you won't know if it's a real connection. I think that Over-easy had some good words (some of the other guys too and others -- I'm worried about)... probably would have worked on me if I was asked to join a ride you were already planning to do. If she agrees then you'd know she is ok with the motorcycle, too because some girls just aren't. The age difference of 5 years is ok when she's 17-18 and you are early 20's - lots of girls dig older guys because they are more interesting.
There are always other fish in the sea (each girl will react differently) so keep your pole in the water and don't stalk her. If you are interested in her, then just keep going to the restaurant with your friends
and judge the situation as it happens. You can always ask coworkers of hers if she's single and they will say to her that you were asking -- that's cute! If you get lucky, maybe you'll run into her somewhere else around town and if she recognizes you AND wants to talk to you then you'll know she wasn't just flirting and you can ask her on that date.
Melissa
There are always other fish in the sea (each girl will react differently) so keep your pole in the water and don't stalk her. If you are interested in her, then just keep going to the restaurant with your friends
Melissa
Those are shims(VaBusa @ Aug. 23 2007,12:32)I personally am going with the idea that many gals answered...
*runs and hides*
written like a true pee-imp.(Over_Easy @ Aug. 23 2007,11:50)Don't ask her if she is single or seeing anybody? If she is she will tell you and maybe she is just casually seeing somebody off/on and open to looking for something better. So if you ask her she may feel obligated to say, "yes." Don't ask her questions that provide her with answers that become objections.(yamahor @ Aug. 23 2007,08:07) Thanks everyone. Next time I see her, I'm enacting the "You single? Wanna go out sometime?" Routine.
Just find out what some of her interests are and what she likes to do for fun and invite her to do something involving those interests.
Melissa, please carefully choose the words you use on Ben's dating threads.
Not trying to be a "pee-imp"(Revolution @ Aug. 23 2007,11:47)written like a true pee-imp.(Over_Easy @ Aug. 23 2007,11:50)Don't ask her if she is single or seeing anybody? If she is she will tell you and maybe she is just casually seeing somebody off/on and open to looking for something better. So if you ask her she may feel obligated to say, "yes." Don't ask her questions that provide her with answers that become objections.(yamahor @ Aug. 23 2007,08:07) Thanks everyone. Next time I see her, I'm enacting the "You single? Wanna go out sometime?" Routine.
Just find out what some of her interests are and what she likes to do for fun and invite her to do something involving those interests.
Make sure to ask questions about her. People typically like to talk about themselves. Also, use her name during the conversation. People like hearing there own name as well. Ask about:
1. Her interests/what she does when she's not working.
2. Where she's from and has lived.
3. Family background/brothers, sisters, etc.
4. Vacation spots visited.
"FIND SOME COMMON GROUND FOR PETE SAKE!"
If she starts asking you those same questions then you may have a fish on the line.
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Be the biggest jerk you can...all yours...
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Be confident and funny. Don't try to act like something you think she would want just be yourself. Trust me I'm a big fat ugly bastard and I got a damm good looking woman that likes the same things I like (she ride her own Busa and has more tattoos than I do).
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Here's my thing though... I realize flirting is part of the job, but I was broke, not eating a daggone thing... Shoot, I was even drinking water... So that made me wonder about the times she'd come by and joke with me. I wasn't able to leave a tip of anysort, no order, just my friends around me ordering... So why talk to the guy without the money?(Cycle Brakes @ Aug. 23 2007,13:45) As a woman, I didn't like guys asking me dates when I was waitressing. Flirting is part of the jobso you won't know if it's a real connection. I think that Over-easy had some good words (some of the other guys too and others -- I'm worried about)... probably would have worked on me if I was asked to join a ride you were already planning to do. If she agrees then you'd know she is ok with the motorcycle, too because some girls just aren't. The age difference of 5 years is ok when she's 17-18 and you are early 20's - lots of girls dig older guys because they are more interesting.
There are always other fish in the sea (each girl will react differently) so keep your pole in the water and don't stalk her. If you are interested in her, then just keep going to the restaurant with your friendsand judge the situation as it happens. You can always ask coworkers of hers if she's single and they will say to her that you were asking -- that's cute! If you get lucky, maybe you'll run into her somewhere else around town and if she recognizes you AND wants to talk to you then you'll know she wasn't just flirting and you can ask her on that date.
Melissa
Thanks for the advise, and on the upside, a friend of mine is a coworker of hers (She didn't know this at the time) and we're there every other week for the music too.
Please don't think I'm a moron, I'm just not used to talking to women.
On a daily basis my friend. On a daily basis ...(dadofthree @ Aug. 23 2007,11:55) Nightcrawler; still looking for that one
heheh now you know i got to mess with you since you think you can do it to me but here i AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH you moran what was you thinkin you always ask them out if they talk to you... trust me i have done it before. girl waited on my family and i and it was mothers day. and so she kept coming to the table and talkin to me and then i said hey can i get your number and we can hang out sometime and sure enough there i got it...
women are human too the answer is either yes my number is XXX-XXXX or hell no you pig ahahahah
women are human too the answer is either yes my number is XXX-XXXX or hell no you pig ahahahah
Dude,
You have posted up over 9000 times in the last two years. You know how to chat, you just need some confidence. From what I've seen on the board, you are a pretty cool guy. Plan out what you are going to talk about before you see her. Ideas: School, What you did this summer, motorcycles, sports, etc. Ask about them in the form of a question so that she has to respond. Eventually you will touch on something that you have in common and the conversation will go smoother. I was 6'6" when I was 12. People don't realize it, but their remarks about size tend to make kids very self conscious. I had to get over it and you probably do too. HE!!, I'm still not opver it, but I can deal with it better now. You da man! You can do it!
Joe
You have posted up over 9000 times in the last two years. You know how to chat, you just need some confidence. From what I've seen on the board, you are a pretty cool guy. Plan out what you are going to talk about before you see her. Ideas: School, What you did this summer, motorcycles, sports, etc. Ask about them in the form of a question so that she has to respond. Eventually you will touch on something that you have in common and the conversation will go smoother. I was 6'6" when I was 12. People don't realize it, but their remarks about size tend to make kids very self conscious. I had to get over it and you probably do too. HE!!, I'm still not opver it, but I can deal with it better now. You da man! You can do it!
Joe
I think you ar building this up. Sounds like she had interest in you. Like the last post says, you know how to talk, you chat on this forum on a regular basis, I think you lost a little of the "in the moment" when you did not say anything about a date when she was digging you. Go back and recapture the conversation, use your friend that works there to your advantage to see if she has a boyfriend and just work in a "get to know each other date". Worst thing she can say is "no".
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