not 2 get into it but here is a little story... or a long 1.. which ever it turns into. me and my ex dated for 5 years (started dating sr year of HS) and were engaged for a year. then 1 day (actually was the day i got lasik done, so i couldnt even c her) she says we need 2 "take time apart" and she "needs 2 b independant"
ofcourse i was devistated... specially since i didnt even see it coming. i tried EVERYTHING 2 make it happen again, but it wasnt going 2 happen. hell, she would even tell me when she went on dates with other guys *not even 2 months after we broke up* for about 6-8 months i couldnt get her out of my mind. i always kept thinking there was a chance still. and *now* i know that everything i did jus tpushed her away even more. later on, once i realized this and i moved on, we would talk here and there, but im talking once every 4-6 weeks and the conversation didnt last long... prob 6-8 months after we broke up.. i started getting over her. fast-forward 2 years.... i was in a great relationship, the chick was really good 2 me, i could felt i could actually say the "L" word again... all that. well.. the ex comes knocking. this is where i got stupid. basically, she wants 2 try things again. i "thought" i made make 110% sure she was serious about it and wasnt just trying 2 keep me around as a friend (the last good year i think i talked 2 her 2 times.. her b-day.. and x-mas). so yea. i broke off that WONDERFUL relationship and got back with the ex.
things were kinda rocky for a month, but doing ok. we went out for about 3 months then she started acting weird again. saying she was somewhere, but wasnt really there *caught her twice at this* then lieing alot, not returing phone calls, ect...ect..ect.. so im like.. ok, phuq this its over. i called her up and wanted to know 1st wtf was going on.. long story short, she said she still needed 2 b independant
dont worry.. im getting 2 my point..
so i told her that she did know i got out of a perfect relationship with someone who i could actually feel "in love with" for her and now she stabs me in the back again. so thats my love story at the age of 23 haha. my point to all this. women are retarded.
but seriously, u need 2 suround urself with ur GOOD friends. me personally, i HATED going out.. kept thinking "what if i see her here". but doesnt mean i was a hermit. actually.. i did a little.. dont even wanna know how much OT i worked.
but whatever you do, and from the sounds of it... dont get back with her. shes an ex.. and an ex for a reason. i always go by the rule of, it takes 1 week for every month u went out 2 get over a relationship. *so yea... 60 months = 60 weeks = a good year, which in all honest.. it took me 2 b 100% over her. if u can/have no problem.. go out 2 a few clubs with ur friends.. dont go 2 chace same ass, just go 2 have fun.. if u find some tail.. just a plus (cant count how many chicks i got at a club becuase of my R6 alone). but dont beat urself up about it. just think of that relationship as a "review" and think of what u liked/will look for and what u learned out of it.
im now actually helping ym good friend whos fiance just broke it off with him... for another chick
..sadly.. she took him to the cleaners... AND still lives with him... he's going 2 need alot of work.
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