Softening? I went a little stiffer front and back, but I do ride alot of twisty roads.
I went up 1 or 2 notches on the spring preload in front and up 1 or 2 on the rebound damping in back (up meaning stiffer). I've noticed improved feel of the road through twisties, and no loss in stability on the highway, up to 140mph. (Sorry, that's as fast as I've been :-) ).
I want to up the spring preload in back (I did this with my first bike, Katana) because I've found that the bikes are set up for 170 lb people in mind. I am the same size as you generally, 6'2" and 195. The spring preload in back requires a special tool, so it is a real PITA.
Hope this helps. I think ya just need to break the seal
and mess with it. Ride it for 100 miles, and you'll know wether you want to change back or not. Suspension settings are VERY individual. But do give it 100 miles, 'cause at first it will be so different you won't like it, but you may love it later.
Sorry for the long winded post, hope it helped.
Jon
PS. Another note, if you change the back, it will change the wheelie characteristics a bit. I went stiffer and it was harder to wheelie, I think because the weight shift rearward was less. I dont' know why exactly, but expect it to change...if it means anything to ya.