well fellas i seen that you guys are always their for us ORGers.
heres my problem ..... sorry in advance for the RANT
well ive been with my other half for about 6yrs and 1 and 1/2 married. we have a home and i thought all was going well but we have been fighting for some time now just about over 6 months. she hates the busa but thats the least of my problems. i found out that she was talking to some one via the internet and the phone so i confronted her and it all spilled out she says that she does have feeling for this guy but he is just an illution she made up to replace me. but i love her so we talked it through and then a week later she still speakin to him once again i let it go and try to work it out now i find out she still hasnt let him go and now she is confused. she says shes not happy and that she thinks she cant make me happy and that she has hurt me tomuch and she doesnt know if she wants to stay or go. well that killed me but what can i do so while she was at her parents house i started packing but as i was putting my close in the truck she shows and staarts to cry and tells me she doesnt want me to leave that she needs me their she needs me by her side but i ask if thats what she decided and she say no she is still confused she is scared to say she wants out and later regret it that just make me feel as small as possible and im a big guy. i know that marrige isnt easy in the beginning but we have lived together for about 5 yrs before we got married so their should be too hard. then i tell her ill stay if she leaves him (im feeling even worse cause im asking my wife to lleave the other guy) and she says she cant lie to me and tell me she wont talk to him anymore cause she said she cares for him but she says he isnt a factor in our problems(am i the only one that dont get it??) and like a moreon i stay and im here at work in limbo. im dieing here guys im lost. just in case im am 26 but i have been through alot so im 26 going on 30...( if that makes sence.) i dont get it guys she cant make up her mind but yet she doesnt want me to leave(why). shes 23 so i know shes young and her friends are young and single so i gave her ALOT of freedom cause i didnt want her to feel tied to an anchor but this is what i get for thinking of her. guys im left her in shambles. i know that im young and i know this isnt the end of the world and that i wont die over this but i love this women and i know i have to let her go but i guess i just want her to say it. all the money i make goes into the house and her and i do side jobs for the busa addiction and if this is over then i will loose my home and have to go running back to my parents which they would love cause im the baby...lol... do you think cousleing would help? but what kills me is that she has feelings for this guy she never met that lives in NY(yes i looked into it everything...) should i cut her off and be done with it and loose what i woked for or should i stay in limbo till she decides? guys thanks for letting me rant i need this out of my head and you guys always give good feed back.
heres my problem ..... sorry in advance for the RANT
well ive been with my other half for about 6yrs and 1 and 1/2 married. we have a home and i thought all was going well but we have been fighting for some time now just about over 6 months. she hates the busa but thats the least of my problems. i found out that she was talking to some one via the internet and the phone so i confronted her and it all spilled out she says that she does have feeling for this guy but he is just an illution she made up to replace me. but i love her so we talked it through and then a week later she still speakin to him once again i let it go and try to work it out now i find out she still hasnt let him go and now she is confused. she says shes not happy and that she thinks she cant make me happy and that she has hurt me tomuch and she doesnt know if she wants to stay or go. well that killed me but what can i do so while she was at her parents house i started packing but as i was putting my close in the truck she shows and staarts to cry and tells me she doesnt want me to leave that she needs me their she needs me by her side but i ask if thats what she decided and she say no she is still confused she is scared to say she wants out and later regret it that just make me feel as small as possible and im a big guy. i know that marrige isnt easy in the beginning but we have lived together for about 5 yrs before we got married so their should be too hard. then i tell her ill stay if she leaves him (im feeling even worse cause im asking my wife to lleave the other guy) and she says she cant lie to me and tell me she wont talk to him anymore cause she said she cares for him but she says he isnt a factor in our problems(am i the only one that dont get it??) and like a moreon i stay and im here at work in limbo. im dieing here guys im lost. just in case im am 26 but i have been through alot so im 26 going on 30...( if that makes sence.) i dont get it guys she cant make up her mind but yet she doesnt want me to leave(why). shes 23 so i know shes young and her friends are young and single so i gave her ALOT of freedom cause i didnt want her to feel tied to an anchor but this is what i get for thinking of her. guys im left her in shambles. i know that im young and i know this isnt the end of the world and that i wont die over this but i love this women and i know i have to let her go but i guess i just want her to say it. all the money i make goes into the house and her and i do side jobs for the busa addiction and if this is over then i will loose my home and have to go running back to my parents which they would love cause im the baby...lol... do you think cousleing would help? but what kills me is that she has feelings for this guy she never met that lives in NY(yes i looked into it everything...) should i cut her off and be done with it and loose what i woked for or should i stay in limbo till she decides? guys thanks for letting me rant i need this out of my head and you guys always give good feed back.