lil charlie
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So my mother in law moved in with us today…. A little back story. She lives in a border town with Mexico and has been there her whole life. She used to have a boy friend but hasn’t for at least 6 months. Her lazy arse drug dealing son lives just a mile away but won’t even talk to her unless he needs something. She’s lonely and has been getting depressed working and coming home to an empty house. She used to come spend one weekend a month with us (we live 45 mins away) but lately it has been turning into every weekend. She called us the other day in tears saying she wants to relocate to our town (she works for the Department of Economic Security and can work in any of the DES offices in the state of Arizona).
The issue is that she not only wanted to move to our town but she wanted to move in with us. Now don’t get me wrong, I love this woman to death and would do anything for her, hence the name of this thread. We just don’t have the room. We live in a 1600 sf 3 bedroom home and there are already 5 of us here. My wife and I share a room with our 11 month old son. Now I had to re arrange stuff in my son’s room to put another bed in there. I would let her live with us forever if I had a bigger place and everyone had their own room. She says it only until she gets a place of her own but she had a place of her own before and that was the problem, she doesn’t like to be alone. She keeps telling herself that it’s to help us with the baby and the bills but we didn’t need help, we are doing this for her.
I can see this lasting for months and I don’t know how I feel about that. It has only been one day and I was already mad at her for putting me in a bind. My wife and I live pay check to paycheck and have to be frugal with our money (okay, I’m just a cheep arse). When Ana, my mommy #2, said she wanted to move in with us this weekend I told her I would need to rent a u-haul trailer and she would need to pay me back for it and the gas I used moving her, plus she would need to chip in on the groceries we were going to buy this weekend. She said it wouldn’t be a problem because she wasn’t going to be paying Aug rent at the place she just moved out of. I fronted $100.00 for that stuff and once I had her unpacked I told her I was going grocery shopping (we had NOTHING to eat or drink) so I needed that money back since I used cash from my grocery money and she said she spent it and would need to pay me back next Friday when she gets paid again…. I was so mad I wanted to send her butt back. How is that helping me with the bills? Now I got to pay to move her and feed her, I didn’t take her in to raise, I got my own for that! I didn’t really take that money from my food budget but I wanted her to think I did because I want her to think of that kind of stuff before she spends her money.
Were not charging her rent, she doesn’t need to chip in on utilities, and her car is paid for so she needs to pay for the food, and I mean all of it, not just what she eats. She’s a good woman, when she spends weekends with us she’s always buying dinner and getting the kids new shoes or shirts. She doesn’t make much money, like my wife, and I just don’t want to pay for her stuff too. I make enough money to support my family, have my bike, and put some away for trips and stuff so were okay but…… It’s not my fault her loser son wants nothing to do with her and that she doesn’t have a man. That’s it…I need to find her a man, then she will want to move out to have some privacy. Now I’m on a mission to get her laid. Thanks for letting me vent peeps! I really do love her; she just stepped on my toes today. The 3 adults are having a family meeting to iron out all the details on what we expect from each other. I guess we should have done that before she moved in but she just called on Wednesday crying and begging to move in. If the situation was reversed she would let us move in with her. In fact My wife and to move back in with her a few times with the kids when things didn’t work out with her Ex.
The issue is that she not only wanted to move to our town but she wanted to move in with us. Now don’t get me wrong, I love this woman to death and would do anything for her, hence the name of this thread. We just don’t have the room. We live in a 1600 sf 3 bedroom home and there are already 5 of us here. My wife and I share a room with our 11 month old son. Now I had to re arrange stuff in my son’s room to put another bed in there. I would let her live with us forever if I had a bigger place and everyone had their own room. She says it only until she gets a place of her own but she had a place of her own before and that was the problem, she doesn’t like to be alone. She keeps telling herself that it’s to help us with the baby and the bills but we didn’t need help, we are doing this for her.
I can see this lasting for months and I don’t know how I feel about that. It has only been one day and I was already mad at her for putting me in a bind. My wife and I live pay check to paycheck and have to be frugal with our money (okay, I’m just a cheep arse). When Ana, my mommy #2, said she wanted to move in with us this weekend I told her I would need to rent a u-haul trailer and she would need to pay me back for it and the gas I used moving her, plus she would need to chip in on the groceries we were going to buy this weekend. She said it wouldn’t be a problem because she wasn’t going to be paying Aug rent at the place she just moved out of. I fronted $100.00 for that stuff and once I had her unpacked I told her I was going grocery shopping (we had NOTHING to eat or drink) so I needed that money back since I used cash from my grocery money and she said she spent it and would need to pay me back next Friday when she gets paid again…. I was so mad I wanted to send her butt back. How is that helping me with the bills? Now I got to pay to move her and feed her, I didn’t take her in to raise, I got my own for that! I didn’t really take that money from my food budget but I wanted her to think I did because I want her to think of that kind of stuff before she spends her money.
Were not charging her rent, she doesn’t need to chip in on utilities, and her car is paid for so she needs to pay for the food, and I mean all of it, not just what she eats. She’s a good woman, when she spends weekends with us she’s always buying dinner and getting the kids new shoes or shirts. She doesn’t make much money, like my wife, and I just don’t want to pay for her stuff too. I make enough money to support my family, have my bike, and put some away for trips and stuff so were okay but…… It’s not my fault her loser son wants nothing to do with her and that she doesn’t have a man. That’s it…I need to find her a man, then she will want to move out to have some privacy. Now I’m on a mission to get her laid. Thanks for letting me vent peeps! I really do love her; she just stepped on my toes today. The 3 adults are having a family meeting to iron out all the details on what we expect from each other. I guess we should have done that before she moved in but she just called on Wednesday crying and begging to move in. If the situation was reversed she would let us move in with her. In fact My wife and to move back in with her a few times with the kids when things didn’t work out with her Ex.
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