Is this normal?

[djsin]

ok so as most of you know my wife and I had our first child on sep 17th...she is very healthy and I already love her more then anything in the world, I have been cooking, cleaning, taking care of my wife and my child, I haven't been losing much sleep, but since I have been out of work for so long and everything..I find myself very depressed...before when i would get this way I would go ride...Im not even in the mood to do that...I know the family here is very supportive, so if anyone has an idea, i can use any help i can get...i think once i find work i will feel better but its already been 9 months..I have a few friend i used to be able to count on, but they seem to disappear when u really need them...I'm at a point in my life where the crisis are pilling up faster then i can deal with them

lease:

 

[badazgtp]

Everything will be alright man. As for being depressed, don't let anything get you down. It's just your mind knowing that you have to provide for your family. Keep your head up and don't let let your wife see how your feeling. Good is coming your way, be patient and and let the man above work his magic.

 

[djsin]

I have been staying upstair most of the days, and only going down to check on the wife every hour or so...I have been crying alot...and listening to music so she dont hear me

 

[rusheriv]

Shake it off brother and get to work, get to work on finding work! You've obviously have that as a big goal already so now you need to break it down. Like the saying about eating the elephant. Set small goals for the day like finding X # of job leads, setting up interviews... Everyday working toward the big goal. Opportunity isn't going to find you if you're hidding in the house. Good luck!
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[m_ridgeway]

Go watch godfather.

YOU CAN ACT LIKE A MAN!

Just ribs. When my son was born it was hard to get back in rhythym. Worried house would fall down if I wasn't there. Just gotta realize you do more good leaving the family to their own devices and go do what you need to do. You'll never make anyone happy by being unhappy.
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[Phil96]

causes of depression complex. could be more than the situation. the crying could very well be homone imbalance, for example. good idea to get checked out.
meanwhile take vits eat natural food exercise. cutout any drinking pills etc. been there
done that. hope this helps. allthe best.

 

[twotonevert]

Todd, this could be normal. I know you are under a lot of stress. A man has to look at what he has to support his family, be there and do what is right. You have had a lot on your plate lately. You are doing all you can do, keep your chin up and take one day at a time. Dont let things overwhelm you. I know you have what it takes, I am very glad I have had the chance to meet and ride with you. So saying what I am saying makes sense to me. This is the point that those that do not do well under pressure split and leave, you are better than that and I know you have not said you wanted to. Keep the faith brother, we are here when you need to talk. And dont let the naysayers tell you crying is not manly, you are showing emotion and you have to let it out somehow. That is also normal, and healthy.

 

[djsin]

thanks two tone

 

[twotonevert]

thanks two tone

Let me get my kids to bed, if you would like to talk, shoot me your number. It will be after 9 Central.

 

[B@DA$$08BUS@]

It is normal with all that is going on. Healthy, now that is another matter. Not that all this is unhealthy, but it could become so. Mothers very frequently go through post partum depression, and it can be very common for husbands or significant others to feel the (ripple effects so to speak).I was out of work as a single father for over a year, I found myself very depressed, bummed and crying a lot. I am not a psychologist by any means, but u gotta try and keep ur head up. I know it is a huge blow to be a provider(man) and not be able to provide as much as you want to. Feel free to PM me if you need to vent or just some one to listen 2 U!
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[Takeuon]

Todd...

I can sympathize with you. I am going through a similar scenario. No bueno on the job front and my daughter is 750 miles way from me. Tears my heart apart.

One thing I can tell you bro..... exercise helps out tremendously!

 

[Phil96]

I'm not just a motorcycle rider, I owned a hospital and plenty of experience
with these matters. And I think my advise was sound, tho I've a masters
degree in hosp administration rather than psy. hang in there djsin, you will
get thru this. you've got the best support here.

 

[dadofthree]

I'm starting to not like your attitude. . . This is only the second thread I've seen you post in but your 2 for 2 on being a jack***. Dude's looking for support and things that may have helped some of the other members who may have had something similar in the past. I guess you need to be taught a lesson that your mother never taught you. . . If you don't have something nice to say, keep your mouth shut. ESPECIALLY with a subject like this one. . . If all you wanna talk about is bikes then go to the general bike info section and stay out of RANDOM THOUGHTS.

It's all good and there's no need for piling on. But thanks for caring about our brother.

You're down on your luck in some respects at this time brother. We've all been there and some of us Geezers Gone Wild have been there so many times it doesn't even bother us anymore.

Here's the thing...... YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFUL NEW BABY, AND SHE NEEDS YOU MORE THAN ANYTHING IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW AND FOR MANY YEARS TO COME. You're just getting started brother. You've got lots of things going for ya. Don't forget it.

 

[Phil96]

Yes, I understand that, no problem, bless.

 

[Revlis]

Um wrong sport, you might be saying what you want, but you sure as hell won't be saying it here.

Dunno who or what you think you are but congratulations, you've placed yourself right front and center.

The long time members here are friends, many considered family, If you think you're going to come in here running off at the mouth insulting members tossing in your two cents where it's not wanted you're dead wrong.

Lay back get an idea of what this forum is about or leave. Simple as that.

 

[Phil96]

the plot thickens

 

[B@DA$$08BUS@]

This is random thoughts thread correct.
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[DREW]

The easiest way to get to work is "truck driver training ". 2 weeks of school in most cases and your off and running. Usually about 40k or more 1st year if you get with a good carrier. U.S. postal contractors are home most every day. In my case every day. just a thought. Good luck to you. :nike:

 

[shadetree57]

As far as I'm concerned, This Thread is about DJ, And I feel Like we are all Kin here so. Hang in There DJ. As far as the cryin, Do It. It'll ease some of the frustration. I have been on ROCK BOTTOM and really didn't care if I killed myself BUT things WILL turn around and you have so much to be Thankfull for. DUDE, If you need to Talk You know we are here. PM me if you want. I know we've never met but I'll be glad to lend an ear. Think positive.

 

[VaBusa]

I would imagine men can go through all the same emotions that women experience after having a child. Shoot, it's not too far fetched for husbands to have sympathy pains, etc, so that might be a factor as well...I'd say the stress of the job front is heavy now, and a baby is a huge change in your daily routine, priorities, every aspect of your life...it's overwhelming for certain and takes months to get used to and accept. Give yourself downtime if you can, and your wife will need it too...hang in there dj...if you need anything, you know we're all here...