Tached1300
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My son Trey has a white girlfriend, she went to high school with him, she was afraid to tell her parents about her relationship with him. When she told her dad about Trey he gave her a choice, stop relationship with him or he would cut her off, he actually stopped paying for her college which was thru his GI Bill, he took his car back and her cell phone. He has never met Trey and didn't want to, he had numerous assumptions about Trey and our family without knowing us at all you know like we are raised differently culturally, our values differ, she didn't know what kind of neighborhood we lived in, along with the common stereotypes.
They stopped all contact with her basically didn't call or visit while she was attending college, she had to stay with my son or us because of lack of support/finances. When he came home to visit she came, home for summer break she would stay with us all summer as well. We include her in all family activities and vacations etc I put her on my cell phone plan and she drives my 2008 Honda Accord. We’ve made sure to show her love unconditionally and assure that her needs are met, she's part of our family.
I hate that her dad reacted that way, funny thing is if they would get to know us he could see how wrong he is about it all, so it's a f-ed up situation. Not to brag or toot my own horn but my family has always been very community oriented we are well known and respected members of our community, we volunteer, mentor, coach, we were once awarded family of the year by our local YMCA and my wife and I have a plaque with our name on the wall of the YMCA for charitable donations. We both serve on various boards and community related committees and such. Again that’s not to brag or look important but to illustrate I’m not sitting at home waiting for a check so I can get my six pack and yell and raise hell with my neighbors and don’t fit the stereotypes but I digress...
I'm even more shocked that her mom allowed this!!! It has been several years since she has seen her parents, she sneaks to see her younger sister out in public once or twice a year usually around their birthdays or holidays. I feel bad about it all, we make sure she can participate in our family events at least, if her dad would've asked anybody of Trey they would've said he's the type you want dating your daughter, he's awesome In that regard, just an example of Bullshit that goes on, now recall this was based solely on the color of my son’s skin. I could respect his choice more if he had met my son and there was a tangible reason he didn’t think he was a good fit but that’s clearly not the case here. Here’s a post in her own words she shared on Facebook that pretty much went viral about her situation a few years ago. Kudos to her for being the one within her family to say this cycle ends with me. Sorry for the small print as it is a screen shot.
They stopped all contact with her basically didn't call or visit while she was attending college, she had to stay with my son or us because of lack of support/finances. When he came home to visit she came, home for summer break she would stay with us all summer as well. We include her in all family activities and vacations etc I put her on my cell phone plan and she drives my 2008 Honda Accord. We’ve made sure to show her love unconditionally and assure that her needs are met, she's part of our family.
I hate that her dad reacted that way, funny thing is if they would get to know us he could see how wrong he is about it all, so it's a f-ed up situation. Not to brag or toot my own horn but my family has always been very community oriented we are well known and respected members of our community, we volunteer, mentor, coach, we were once awarded family of the year by our local YMCA and my wife and I have a plaque with our name on the wall of the YMCA for charitable donations. We both serve on various boards and community related committees and such. Again that’s not to brag or look important but to illustrate I’m not sitting at home waiting for a check so I can get my six pack and yell and raise hell with my neighbors and don’t fit the stereotypes but I digress...
I'm even more shocked that her mom allowed this!!! It has been several years since she has seen her parents, she sneaks to see her younger sister out in public once or twice a year usually around their birthdays or holidays. I feel bad about it all, we make sure she can participate in our family events at least, if her dad would've asked anybody of Trey they would've said he's the type you want dating your daughter, he's awesome In that regard, just an example of Bullshit that goes on, now recall this was based solely on the color of my son’s skin. I could respect his choice more if he had met my son and there was a tangible reason he didn’t think he was a good fit but that’s clearly not the case here. Here’s a post in her own words she shared on Facebook that pretty much went viral about her situation a few years ago. Kudos to her for being the one within her family to say this cycle ends with me. Sorry for the small print as it is a screen shot.