We got an 08 Pathfinder LE 4x4 and it rocks FWIW. It's very nice, 380hp V-8 in a midsize SUV is a hoot as well. I'd avoid the Jeep like the plague though, drove both the Parody (I mean patriot) and the Commander. Both Are so lacking in finish and attention to detail that they were quickly off the list of possibilities. The one time Chrysler/Mercedes Merger did nothing for the brand. The Jeep CJs are still same as ever, but of course they are priced as if they are built well also.
Toyota four runner FTW though really, if they hadn't a been giving away Pathfinders we would have bought a 4-Runner. While Toyota cars are as bland as retirement home chili, their trucks are still rock solid and well engineered.
I spent a year or so bombing around every now and then in a friends X-Terra, they are ok, but they are slow and get pretty poor fuel mileage. Though the Nissan will remain problem free much much longer than the Jeep will and will likely be far better off road. But yeah, the biggest complaint I heard from my buddy was that the X-terra got just as crappy a gas mileage as his late 90's Suburban. True enough, on the interstate and around town the X-terra's smaller motor was working so much harder so often that it used more gas than the big old Suburban did.
If I were in your position right now, I'd find a year or two old Certified Pre-Owned Toyota 4-Runner with the V6 and never look back... FWIW It's just that much better than the X-Terra or Patriot in every way. Actual 4X4 capability (Locking Diffs, Body on frame construction), and the ergonomics, handling, and build quality are all better. This isn't guessing, the wife and I just got done with a 4 month SUV search and like I said the 4-Runners are better in just about every way, if you are planning on keeping a vehicle for a long time and actually going offroad? I'd do a 4-Runner.