Ladies of the oRg, social etiquette question.

[twotonevert]

Ok, I will try to explain what happens and then I will ask my question. Whenever I have social interaction with a lady, most of the time, they will take their jacket, overshirt, whatever, and cover themselves while we are speaking. It drives my nuts, I dont understand why they do that. I went to the doctors office yesterday and visited with my PA. The whole time, unless she was using her hands to illistrate her conversation, she was covering herself with her lab coat. Ladies in my office do this too. I dont get it. I am professional and courteous with everyone I deal with. I dont stare, I look them straight in the face and carry on the conversation.
Am I somehow causing this reaction? Is it my demeanor? This behavior is distracting because A) they fidget the whole time we are talking, and B) I cant figure it out and some how think I am being rude, therefore causing this reaction. Am I reading too much into this? Whats the deal? And yes.....I am dead serious. Thank you for any explanation you can provide.

[Mrs.Rubber2Burn]

Hmmm. I will have to contemplate and get back with u. i mainly do this when uncomfortable, but it is a self esteem issue.
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[HRHDi]

Personally, I don't really know what to do with my hands when I'm talking to someone, so I tend to fidget. This is no refelction on the person I'm speaking with, it's completely me. Also, I'm always cold. So, combine that with my fidgeting, and I'll be messin' with my sweater/jacket/coat if I'm talking to you.

I'll pay more attention to what I do and why I do it and see if I find another reason for it.

[semi]

put some pants on you pervert and you won't have this problem!!! it makes me uncomfortable too and i am very ok with my self-esteem

[Scar]

I think your situation is more behavioral than etiquette based, bro.

Having been trained thoroughly in matters "etiquette" and having been applied this knowledge in State functions overseas, I can tell you there's nothing in the etiquette rule-books about a woman 'fixing' herself nervously.



Good luck, though, gaining your understanding.

I've personally found that people get nervous around inordinately (really, really, really ridiculously good looking) attractive people...and that must be YOU!!!



PS: I know you didn't ask us 'guys,' but I knew I could help...

[VaBusa]

It's simple...far too many men just talk to breasts and we see that so often, we tend to just cover ourselves

Unless the chick's got a boob job, the whole push up bra and something low cut on, she's not asking for the extra "socializing" with "the girls", and far too many guys do it without even realizing it. I've been known to take my finger, put it under the chin of the guy talking to me, pushing his head back up a bit and saying "I'm up here"...he'll turn blood red, honestly not realizing what he's doing

Just sayin...

P.S. I do not understand women...never will...

[mrninja9]

james,
I get that sometimes. It is like they feel better if they cover up. like they have thoughts in their mind klike your trying to eye rape them. I look all women in the eyes just out of respect. i wait till they walk away before i look at there body. Alas the fidgitting gets old. cause you just want to tell them to stop. like i little kid.

It looks to me as it is a social distortion of there beliefs. They feel that with everyone else wants to look and gauk at them but when you don't they have no clue what to do with them selves. they believe that every guy should stare and they are uncomfortable when they don't

it is liek reversing the role's on them..
ok now time to get flamed i bet

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by Scar

I think your situation is more behavioral than etiquette based, bro.

Having been trained thoroughly in matters "etiquette" and having been applied this knowledge in State functions overseas, I can tell you there's nothing in the etiquette rule-books about a woman 'fixing' herself nervously.



Good luck, though, gaining your understanding.

I've personally found that people get nervous around inordinately (really, really, really ridiculously good looking) attractive people...and that must be YOU!!!



PS: I know you didn't ask us 'guys,' but I knew I could help...

Thank you Scar, didnt place enough emphasis on my own appearance.

[omslaw]

Originally Posted by twotonevert

I dont stare, I look them straight in the face and carry on the conversation.
Am I somehow causing this reaction? Is it my demeanor?

You're kidding right?!

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by VaBusa

It's simple...far too many men just talk to breasts and we see that so often, we tend to just cover ourselves

Unless the chick's got a boob job, the whole push up bra and something low cut on, she's not asking for the extra "socializing" with "the girls", and far too many guys do it without even realizing it. I've been known to take my finger, put it under the chin of the guy talking to me, pushing his head back up a bit and saying "I'm up here"...he'll turn blood red, honestly not realizing what he's doing

Just sayin...

P.S. I do not understand women...never will...

But VABs, I make an concience effort to not do that. Serioulsy.

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by mrninja9

james,
I get that sometimes. It is like they feel better if they cover up. like they have thoughts in their mind klike your trying to eye rape them. I look all women in the eyes just out of respect. i wait till they walk away before i look at there body. Alas the fidgitting gets old. cause you just want to tell them to stop. like i little kid.

It looks to me as it is a social distortion of there beliefs. They feel that with everyone else wants to look and gauk at them but when you don't they have no clue what to do with them selves. they believe that every guy should stare and they are uncomfortable when they don't

it is liek reversing the role's on them..
ok now time to get flamed i bet

No reason for flaming, good point.

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by HRHDi

Personally, I don't really know what to do with my hands when I'm talking to someone, so I tend to fidget. This is no refelction on the person I'm speaking with, it's completely me. Also, I'm always cold. So, combine that with my fidgeting, and I'll be messin' with my sweater/jacket/coat if I'm talking to you.

I'll pay more attention to what I do and why I do it and see if I find another reason for it.

Thank you Diana.

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by omslaw

You're kidding right?!


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Well, if you have to bring that up.

[Scar]

Originally Posted by twotonevert

Thank you Scar, didnt place enough emphasis on my own appearance.

Claro que si!

[VaBusa]

Originally Posted by twotonevert

But VABs, I make an concience effort to not do that. Serioulsy.

OK, so you don't (thought the blurry photographic evidence says otherwise), but every other guy does You don't stand a chance...

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by VaBusa

OK, so you don't (thought the blurry photographic evidence says otherwise), but every other guy does You don't stand a chance...

Ok, so I am guilty by association. Fair enough. I just pay attention to peoples mannerisms, body language, etc.

[VaBusa]

Originally Posted by twotonevert

Ok, so I am guilty by association. Fair enough. I just pay attention to peoples mannerisms, body language, etc.

Is that what they call it nowadays?

"...just paying attention to peoples' mannerisms, body language..." How's this?

[mrsBusawhipped]

You are a true gentleman and good looking to boot and I think some women may not know how to handle that.

Julie, you are a lucky woman!!!

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by VaBusa

Is that what they call it nowadays?

"...just paying attention to peoples' mannerisms, body language..." How's this?

No, your taking it out of context.

[twotonevert]

Originally Posted by mrsBusawhipped

You are a true gentleman and good looking to boot and I think some women may not know how to handle that.

Julie, you are a lucky woman!!!

Thank you Trish!